Butterflies are Free”  do you remember that movie from the early ’70’s?  It’s funny how certain things impact our lives such as a movie…I remember I used the phrase “Butterflies are Free” as a teen when a boy friend of mine wanted to go steady but was aggravated with me because I was talking to one of his friends, needless to say when I threw that phase out there it didn’t take long for him to jump on his motor bike and take off.  How many of you have ever felt like saying that to someone when in a stifling relationship but were afraid of what they might think of you or how they would react?  Well it is your God given right to be as the butterflies….free. Now don’t get me wrong and think that I am saying that you should be able to do whatever you want in a relationship, I’m just saying that no one has the right to control you and to suffocate your joy and spirit. You need to open your heart to loving “You” and spread your wings and fly, transform yourself from that caterpillar, break out of your cocoon and become that beautiful butterfly. Before you learn to fly you need to be able to lift yourself up and feel like you are beautiful and free. First you need to rid your mind of all the negative thoughts that run through it. If you are unsure how to do that or where to even start you need to check out “How To Build Your Self-Esteem in Just One Weekend” It will help you to understand how important self-nurturing and positive affirmations and give you action steps to get you started. Also included is a quick start guide to help you on your way to building your self-esteem and empowering you with self love and positive thoughts of yourself.Learn to be like the butterflies….The Butterflies Are Free!  

Did you know that it is your birthright to love and honor yourself? You need to realize that you are a wonderful, special person and there is no one else like you – unless you happen to have an identical twin – you are one-of-a-kind!  Doesn’t that make you feel a little special?? Well it should, because you are. You are a gift that God gave to himself, made in his own image, someone he could love and cherish. So Yes! You are worthy of loving and being loved.

It is sad to think that there are so many people with self-esteem issues today. Having a good self-esteem allows you to accept yourself and live life to the fullest. Self-esteem is how you estimate yourself, the value that you put on yourself.  It’s not the same as having confidence contrary to what some might think. A person can be confident, attractive even world famous and yet have low self-esteem issues.

We commonly think that self –esteem is merely about how we feel about ourselves and that we either have positive or negative self-esteem which is determined simply by how we think and feel about ourselves and how we think others think and feel about us. It’s all on you, no one has the power to make you feel any less of yourself, the power is all yours and how you think about yourself.

Our feelings and emotions do not exists alone or have independent existence….we do not simply feel….for every thought and emotion we have there is a corresponding thought that we have about ourselves that generated the experience of self-esteem.

Self-esteem is really about our thinking and more specifically about the thoughts that we develop or create about ourselves. These thoughts are what we need to change.

Low self-esteem is actually quite a widespread problem and if you suffer from this problem it can actually cause more, even serious problems unless you can find a way to overcome it.

No one else knows you better than You! There is an e-book that can help you to build your self-esteem called “How to Build Your Self-Esteem in Just One Weekend” It is full of tips and exercises that will help you to combat that negative inner voice. It will also teach you how to get help from those around you, how to use positive affirmations and there is a self–esteem quiz to help you find out if you do indeed have low self-esteem. Take a few minuets to check out this e-book and see if it’s right for you, after all…what have you got to lose?

If you don’t think this e-book is right for you or if you have some other special need or interest please feel free to let me know and I will do my best to help you find what you are looking for. Click Here!

Live, Love, Laugh,

Kathy

Life is a gift, that’s why we call it the “present”!  I’m sure you have all heard that one before, right?  Well you know it really is true, Life is a gift, a true miracle to say the least and each and every one of us has the right to claim that fact.  Every one of us were born lovable, it’s just that somewhere along the way between infancy and adulthood some of us have had less than desirable circumstances or events that have left us feeling inferior, un-lovable.

You have to Love yourself before you can expect any one to love you in return, if you don’t like the person that you see in the mirror each morning, then how can you expect anyone else to love that person. You are a special and unique person worthy of being loved. You need to look within yourself to find that lovable person. All the answers to your questions are in you. You hold the key and with the proper guidance you can unlock the door to your own happiness.

You were not a mistake! God had a plan for you before you were even born. Every time you dwell on your past failures and insecurities you are closing a part of your heart and your mind to receive the current blessings that God has for you. You are what you think! You are powerful. You have the choice to use that power for the highest good for yourself and others.

A good cure for emotional problems is to turn outward. Stop dwelling on all of your negative thoughts and insecurities and start giving of yourself to others. You may be thinking that you don’t have anything of yourself to give but I am here to tell you that everyone has something to give even if it’s only a small gesture of kindness such as a smile or a kind word. Sometimes just your presence can be a gift to someone that is feeling lonely, grieving or suffering from an illness. It will warm your heart and that will have to make you feel better about yourself.

There is no single way to build your self-esteem but there are many ways you can work on the issue.  The first thing you need to do is Just Let It Go! Don’t dwell on your problems and stop trying to figure them out. Being a success or failure is up to the individual. Freud discovered the subconscious and felt that the behavior pattern of a person is set during the first five or six years of age and is very difficult to change. The mind is a very powerful thing. The subconscious part of our minds reacts according to the information which is fed to it.

Over the coming months we will discuss different levels of how to build self esteem and self confidence. I invite you to comment on any post and offer suggestions as what you would like to discus……I value your opinion.

Live, Love, Laugh,

Kathy Fitzwater