Life is a gift, that’s why we call it the “present”!  I’m sure you have all heard that one before, right?  Well you know it really is true, Life is a gift, a true miracle to say the least and each and every one of us has the right to claim that fact.  Every one of us were born lovable, it’s just that somewhere along the way between infancy and adulthood some of us have had less than desirable circumstances or events that have left us feeling inferior, un-lovable.

You have to Love yourself before you can expect any one to love you in return, if you don’t like the person that you see in the mirror each morning, then how can you expect anyone else to love that person. You are a special and unique person worthy of being loved. You need to look within yourself to find that lovable person. All the answers to your questions are in you. You hold the key and with the proper guidance you can unlock the door to your own happiness.

You were not a mistake! God had a plan for you before you were even born. Every time you dwell on your past failures and insecurities you are closing a part of your heart and your mind to receive the current blessings that God has for you. You are what you think! You are powerful. You have the choice to use that power for the highest good for yourself and others.

A good cure for emotional problems is to turn outward. Stop dwelling on all of your negative thoughts and insecurities and start giving of yourself to others. You may be thinking that you don’t have anything of yourself to give but I am here to tell you that everyone has something to give even if it’s only a small gesture of kindness such as a smile or a kind word. Sometimes just your presence can be a gift to someone that is feeling lonely, grieving or suffering from an illness. It will warm your heart and that will have to make you feel better about yourself.

There is no single way to build your self-esteem but there are many ways you can work on the issue.  The first thing you need to do is Just Let It Go! Don’t dwell on your problems and stop trying to figure them out. Being a success or failure is up to the individual. Freud discovered the subconscious and felt that the behavior pattern of a person is set during the first five or six years of age and is very difficult to change. The mind is a very powerful thing. The subconscious part of our minds reacts according to the information which is fed to it.

Over the coming months we will discuss different levels of how to build self esteem and self confidence. I invite you to comment on any post and offer suggestions as what you would like to discus……I value your opinion.

Live, Love, Laugh,

Kathy Fitzwater