Self Love: The love of one’s self; desire of personal happiness; tendency to seek one’s own benefit or advantage.
Loving yourself unconditionally doesn’t mean you have to love everything you have ever done, I know I have made some mistakes in my life that I am certainly not proud of but you have to just call them mistakes and learn from them. Don’t dwell or focus on the past events in your life, forgive yourself for your mistakes and if you can correct them so you don’t do them again.
Forgiving your self is very important because if you can forgive yourself you will be better able to forgive others. You have to forgive and love yourself before you can love and forgive someone else.
How you feel about yourself regulates how others feel about you. You may wonder how others know how you feel about yourself but it can be something as simple as the way you walk or talk about yourself, your appearance or just the vibrations you are sending out.
I know many of us have the fear that there is a fine line between loving yourself and being egotistical there fore we minimize our accomplishments. We believe that people should love us for who we are not for what we do.
The difference is that ego operates out of fear and relies on outside sources and self love comes from within. Fear is a killer, is drains the life right out of you so don’t be afraid to love yourself.
Most egotist have low self esteem which makes it hard for you to feel that you deserve to be loved, but everyone deserves to be loved even by yourself. If you need help with your self esteem I suggest you incorporate the help of someone you love and trust to help you but if you need to try to work on this yourself you might want to check out ” How to Build Your Self-Esteem in Just One Weekend ” there you will find many tips and exercises to help you be on your way to a more lovable you in a very short time.
I wish you all the best in finding the best “YOU” that you can be! and remember…YOU ARE AWESOME!
Live, Love, Laugh,
Kathy
Your view of yourself effects your whole life! It is your choice to be either a positive or negative person. Your self-esteem effects every aspect of your life whether you realize it or not.
You need to understand that you were not an accident! God has a special plan for your life and it is up to you to fulfill it. God does not create junk, you are a person of value, created to make a unique contribution to the world.
I know we can get caught up in the all the negative things in the world but you have to keep the thought in mind that you are a “very special person” and there is no one else quite like you in the world. That in itself should make you feel special.
You need to learn to appreciate who you are. You may not be able to do everything perfect but that’s ok, no one expects you to be perfect, and besides being perfect doesn’t make you any more special or loved. You just need to have a positive self image and there are many ways you can work on that.
You need to first assess who you are and how you feel about “you”. I know from experience that this is not always an easy thing to do, as a matter of fact….it is very difficult!
Honestly I know how you feel, I have been there, and on some days I still go there. Sometimes the “poor me” role seems a little easier to deal with but it doesn’t help you move forward in a positive way and besides that….no one wants to hear it! They don’t care about your problems. It took me a long time to learn these things and I am still learning, it’s the only way to over come and conquer your fear of inadequacy and low self esteem.
If you feel you can’t do this alone then get help. Enlist the help of a friend or someone you trust to help you work on the areas of your life you feel you can’t handle on your own. And if you are like me you will just muddle through and try to do it on your own and that’s ok too. If I could I would like to help you in your search for help. “How to Build Your Self-Esteem in Just One Weekend” is full of information, evaluations and exercises to help you get on your way to a more self confident powerful you!
I will always be on the look out for more products and information that I feel can be of help in your quest for a more lovable you as I am on the same journey.
Do not degrade what God has created, we are all perfect in his site.
You Are Awesome!
Live. Laugh, Love,
Kathy
Here are a few other items that might be of help:
DNA of Success by Jack Zufelt
Social Strategies by Jon Mercer
Life is a gift from God, designed to be enjoyed. He created us to be passionate, loving, caring people. He wants us to experience pleasure and to know how to have a good time without sinning and all he wants in return is our love.
Sometimes I think that we take our lives for granted. We seem to forget what our purpose in life is and how our lives intertwine with other people’s lives. I truly believe that everyone comes into our life for a Reason a Season or a Lifetime. Everyone has a significance and purpose.
The past few days I have been thinking about my Grandpa, may he rest in peace, he passed away on April 13, 2001. That is a date I will never be able to forget, the timing was very strange. That particular year April 13th just happened to be Good Friday, it was also Friday the 13th. And if that weren’t enough, it was the day before my birthday. This all makes it kind of hard on my Grandma because she remembers his passing at all of those times plus one other day, the day he was buried, it was the day before my daughter’s birthday. How ironic.
Grandpa was a very special man and he did live a long life, he was 87. Everyone knew him as “Frog” I’m sure a lot of people didn’t even know his real name, but he was always Grandpa to me and everyone loved and respected him.
When I was growing up grandpa was more of a dad to me than my own dad was. I think that happens in a lot of families because grandpas know how important it is to play with children and put the work aside for a while. Grandpa knew how to love and he put great value on his family, he was a very loving, wise man, a true family man.
I admire him so much. He worked hard for a living but knew when it was time to stop and rest, time for what was important, his family. He was a great role model.
I not only had the pleasure and honor of having him for a grandpa but I also got to see him play with and love my own children. It was so awesome to see him sit and tell the kids stories, read them books, and even help them with their homework. I remember him letting my son help him work on the lawn mower and helped my daughter coax a squirrel close enough to take a nut from her hand, things they will never forget.
I also remember how grandpa was always there to offer advice, support and help out in anyway he felt would be beneficial to you, even financial. I feel very blessed to have had such a wonderful grandpa, he taught me so much and made me feel so special and loved.
I think I am a lot like him in many ways, all the way down to his sense of humor, laughter lightens the spirit. He loved to give and help people and so do I, that’s why I am here, to help you in any way I can. You are Awesome and you deserve to be loved and happy, everyone does!
Life is too short to spend it in fear and feeling sorry for yourself so if you are suffering from low self-esteem and need some help in over coming it, may I suggest you check out “How to Build Higher Self-Esteem in Just One Weekend” it is full of helpful information, quizzes and exercises to help you.
I would like to leave you with a little saying my Grandpa used to say every time we left his company, he would always say “See You in the funny papers”
Remember………
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
Our Life on Earth is just a Whisper, Greater things are yet to come!
One of God’s greatest gifts is the freedom to be individual and unique. Your happiness depends on what you believe so never lose heart, for the seed of your faith is at work and the timing is divinely set in place for you to reap the bounty of your dreams.
Reject the word “impossible”, don’t surrender the control of your life over to fears or frightening fantasies. Problems are really illusions. Don’t underestimate your own talents and worth, you can do anything you set your mind to do. You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to make your dreams come true and most importantly, you have to be willing to fail! Failure gives you the ability to grow and to learn more about yourself though those failures. The more you learn and know about yourself the more successful you will be.
I know most people are afraid to take the initial step toward fulfilling their destiny and dreams out of pure fear of failure, I believe this to be true because I used to be one of them. I was always afraid to “look foolish” or to just plain out “fail”, but actually you can learn through failure.
The first thing you have to learn is to stop giving power to negative thoughts, stop watching the news and reading all the bad things in the paper, stop complaining about how our lives are going. Why do we want to fuel our minds with all that junk? One reason I think we do it is because it is easier, we feel we don’t have to be accountable that way. We don’t have to fear failure because we didn’t even try, therefore who is to say whether you were good at something or not, there is no proof. This is the one area I can say that I have made much improvement in, I would always have a “poor me story” when someone would ask me how I was. Well you know what? NO ONE WANTS TO HEAR THAT! They don’t really care! So now when someone asks me how I am I just smile and say something like “just peachy, how are you?” and you know that not only makes the other person smile, but it also takes the pressure off of you, the ball is in their court now. I make it a goal to make at least one person smile a day, that is the one thing I can give that doesn’t cost a thing and can mean so very much to someone. We have to stop living in fear if we want to be truly free and happy. We have to empower ourselves with positive thinking, positive self talk, and surround ourselves with positive people.
It’s not enough to just think positive, and to just think about good things, you have to believe it! If you can Believe it you can Achieve it!
If you are lost, Find yourself! become the lovable person that you know you are, dare to dream, dare to fail! If you need help working on your self-esteem or finding out who you are, you might be interested in “How to Build Higher Self-Esteem in Just one Weekend“ what have you got to lose? aren’t you worth it?
You Are Awesome,
Live, Love, Laugh,
Kathy
Additional reading that might be of interest to you:
“TheScience of Success” by Gary Vurnum
“How to Forgive Yourself” by Mark Ivar Myhre
“DNA of Success” by Jack Zufelt
“Social Strategies” by Jon Mercer