I recently attended a high school graduation and it was amazing to see all of those young people making that huge leap from childhood to adulthood in just a matter of a few moments. First of all I would like to say Congratulations to all of you who succeeded in getting their diploma, you are awesome!
That is such an accomplishment and should make you feel very proud. I know for some it was easier than others but you all made it and now it’s time to make some huge life altering decisions. Those decisions will depend greatly on how mature and confident each newly acclaimed adult is. Every one of those graduates are unique and each will be making different decisions about what they are going to do with the rest of their lives.
It’s ok for all of us to have different goals and dreams, that’s what sets us apart and makes us unique and special, life would be pretty boring if we all went after the same things don’t you think? I’m sure many of those graduates will be attending college in the fall and some will just get jobs and others will still have no clue what they want to do with their life and this will greatly depend on how they were raised and if they have a healthy self esteem.
Those that are confident and have a higher self esteem will be the ones that know how to set and achieve goals and will have a good sense of direction as to how their life will turn out while those with lower self esteem may have no idea as to what they want out of life and where the next few years will take them. I think a lot of this depends on how each child grew up, whether they had a loving, nurturing supportive family or whether they were neglected, possibly abused living in a dysfunctional family. We don’t get to chose our parents but sometimes I think there should be some sort of manual given to parents at the birth of their child teaching them how to love and raise a child to be everything they were created to be, we were all created for greatness.
We all need to realize that we are unique and lovable, parents as well as children. I know sometimes we all need a little reassuring and sometimes a little help. I am here for you if there is anyway I can help, I want you to feel empowered and lovable, for your self esteem to soar and take you to where ever it is you want to go. I want you to realize how awesome you truly are. You have the right to be happy and become whatever it is you want to be. Your life is yours and you are in control, make the best of it.
I would like to suggest a few tools that might be helpful to you on your journey to greatness….If you are suffering from poor self esteem “How to Build Your Self Esteem in Just one Weekend” is full of useful information that can help you fast. If you are striving to be happy you might want to read “7 Power words to Live By” it is very uplifting and will make you happier just reading it. I want you to be happy and feel lovable because you deserve it! You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
Boy sometimes it just feels like there are just not enough hours in the day to get everything you need to get done…DONE! Have you ever felt like that? It’s very frustrating to say the least. I’ve discovered that all you can do when you are feeling pressured and out of time is to just take things one step at a time and make the most of every moment you have. Everything will work out and you will live to see another day. A deadline is usually set to give you a guideline but I guarantee you that if you don’t meet that deadline, it will not be the end of the world. Lets face it, sometimes things just get in the way and sometimes they are important things that can never be made up if you were to miss them, things such as your granddaughters dance recital, taking your granddaughter to the hospital when she is sick and only getting an hours sleep then having to go to work. That’s just the way my week has gone and I am feeling a little exhausted and even tonight I have things that I needed to get done and I am here babysitting again and the little one is really very fussy making things a little unpleasant but you gotta love them.You need to spend time with your children or grandchildren and give them all the love you possibly can and make sure they know how valuable and lovable they are so they can grow up happy adults without self esteem issues. Don’t just tell them how special and lovable they are SHOW them, speaking of which I need to cut this short, my granddaughters and I are getting ready to watch Alvin and the Chipmunks JLearn to become lovable and teach your children to be lovable and then they will be well on their way to living a happy fulfilled life. Love them and let them know how special and unique they really are and to never lose site of that.If you had a less than perfect childhood and are feeling less than lovable and unhappy you should read “The 7 Power Words to Live By” for a meaningful and happy life. The more you learn the more empowered you will be. Learn to live the life you have always dreamed of, take a chance and love!Well I hate to cut this short but Trinity and the Chipmunks are waiting.Love You! You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
Other resources that might be helpfull:
To be Happy is a Choice! And yes we all have that choice. Some of us just let others influence our lives to the point that we don’t know who we really are anymore and we are no longer who we started out to be. We get so lost sometimes just trying to live our lives to please others, seeking their approval, making sure their needs are met, trying to make them happy, that in the process we forget who we really are, what we want and what makes us happy. We seem to find it easier to let someone else do our thinking for us, maybe because we have someone to blame when things don’t go the way we think they should. In the words of Socrates “To find yourself, think for yourself” become all that you were meant to be. If you let someone else do Your thinking for you then you can only become what they think you should be. Take responsibility for who you are, be strong and don’t give up, you have your whole life to get it right, one day at a time but the key is that You have to Start. One expression I have heard quite often is “You don’t have to get it right, you just have to get it going” There will never be a better time to get it going than today, for tomorrow may never come. Be happy with You and become lovable from the inside out. You are only cheating yourself if you don’t. Be yourself, love who you are because if you don’t love yourself then you may never know what it truly feels like to be loved. If you really want to be loved then you first must be lovable, are you lovable??? Do you value who you are? That is the first step to loving yourself by placing value on who you are. When you value (love) who you are then others will be able to see that and value you all the more. Your self esteem plays a big role in how you value yourself. We were all born with a healthy self esteem but sometimes in the process of growing up we come in contact with other people that have low self esteem and the relationships we have with those people can sometimes rob you of your own self esteem. People that aren’t happy don’t want you to be happy either. They will do everything they can to try and keep you on their level. You have to realize that you are better than that and don’t let anyone belittle or degrade you. You have to develop a new self image, be more positive about yourself, recognize what you can and can not change about yourself and change the things you can. Try not to be perfect because no one is. Your imperfections make you unique and special. Don’t be afraid to be different and voice your opinions and ideas and take pride in doing so. Relax and enjoy who you are and have fun, don’t put your life on hold until everything is perfect because it may never be. Always move forward toward your goals and ideals and never give up on them or you! It’s never too late to develop a healthy self esteem and become lovable but it may take a little time and work so be patient, don’t get discouraged. You may need the help of a professional but if you want to try it on your own first I would like to suggest that you read “How to Build Your Self Esteem In Just One Weekend” and you also might like “7 Power Words To Live By For a Meaningful and Happy Life” both Books will guide you to learning more about You and how to Become Lovable! Remember You are Awesome! And also remember; I have been where you are and I want you to know that I am here to help you and guide you in any way I can, you can over come low self esteem!
Live, Laugh, Love,Kathy
Your life should be an exciting adventure and there is no better time to start than now. You need to have a vision for your life and start moving toward it. Life is like a maize, full of up’s and down’s, over’s and under’s, through’s and around’s, a true obstacle course with each challenge there to teach us something and to make us stronger. No one ever said that life was going to be easy but what you get out of it and put in to it is entirely up to you. Be strong and don’t give up, reach for the good and dismiss the negative, it will all be worth it in the end.
Life without love is really useless so in order to love your life you have to begin by loving yourself first but then again before you can be loved in life you must first be lovable. It is essential for you to love what you do and do what you love….Today! Don’t worry and fret about what happened yesterday because yesterday is gone, you have to live for today. This quote comes to mind here: Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery, Today is a gift, that’s why we call it the present. Think about that for a min…..all we really have to live for is “Today” as we may not be here tomorrow.
One thing you need to understand is how love and self esteem are so closely related in meaning…both are a measure of “value”. When we don’t feel we are of value or loved then we suffer from low self esteem, we are accepting the value that someone else is putting on us not how we necessarily feel about ourselves. It is easier sometimes to accept what others think than it is for us to think for ourselves but we need to start thinking for ourselves and valuing those thoughts.
We need to let go of the past and forgive ourselves and others for all the negative things that we have let come into our lives. Then begin to Dream and envision your life that way you want it to be.
The Law of Attraction states “Whatever you Perceive and Believe you can Achieve” . We need to retrain our minds to think, we also need to develop a healthy self image. It is amazing how powerful thoughts and words can be. There are words and phrases that we need to remember and some we need to forget such as “I can” and “I can’t” “I’ll try” and “I will” I think you can see the difference here. Make it a point to set daily goals and use positive words and present tense words, nothing negative.
I have been a negative person for most of my life and I am now understanding how powerful all of this positive affirmation stuff really is….IT WORKS! I am happier now than I have ever been in my life, and no it won’t happen over night or just come to you. You have to work at it and be consistent with it.
I am sure you have heard the expression “physician heal thy self” well this is sort of the same thing, you have to heal yourself, it comes from the inside. I know this can be overwhelming but there are many helpful resources out there that can help you to overcome your low self esteem and help you to empower yourself with love and success. There are several resources I have come across that I feel can be very useful tools on your journey to knowing and loving yourself. ”7 Words to Live By“ is an introduction to Life and Living it to the Fullest. I think you will find this e-book empowering and enlightening. You also might be interested in “How To Build Your Self Esteem in Just One Weekend” this e-book goes a step further on how to develop your self esteem or to help someone else in need, even children.
Remember…Everyone has the Right to be Happy! and that includes YOU! You were Created to be a Success!
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
additional resources:
“DNA of Success” by J. Zufelt
“Social Strategies” by J. Mercer
“How to Forgive Yourself” by M. Myhre
“Ultimate Secrets of Success” by M. Latiff
How are you feeling today? are you feeling lovable? How we feel about ourselves influences how we live our lives. People that feel that they are likeable and lovable usually have better relationships, even with themselves. If you don’t love yourself you really can’t expect someone else to love “You”.
I’m sure you have heard about the Law of Attraction, or manifesting by now, if you haven’t then you must be living in seclusion or something lol. That seems to be all the rage right now and I know a lot of people think that as long as they can “believe it they can achieve it” well that might be true to an extent but the key word here is the word “achieve” believing isn’t enough, in order to achieve something you have to work toward it.
One way to do this is by positive affirmations. Positive self affirmations are healing and can help you free yourself from your negative inner voice and the over dependence you place on other people’s opinions of you. Positive self affirmations can also help you to resolve negative feelings from the past and give you permission to grow, to change, to take risk and to create a better life for yourself but this all takes work and commitment on your part to do this, it’s not just going to happen because you “wish” it or just “believe” it, you must take action! You may even need to enlist the help of others. This can be a very important step to improving your self esteem but it can also be one of the most difficult things to do…asking for help! don’t be afraid to ask.
A good practice I have found is to start giving thanks every morning for those things in your life that are working and that are important to you, manifest a grateful heart. Just a few weeks ago I went to work at my second job and I was unhappy when I got there because they were not being fair in the way they were dividing up the stations ( I work as a waitress by the way) they had given me only three tables, two of which were two person tables, this is not the first time this has happened either. I decided that I wouldn’t say anything and I started walking around with a smile on my face muttering to myself ” have a grateful heart, have a grateful heart” and a short amount of time later the hostess asked me if I could take a table of fifteen in the next room and I said “Sure”. That was the best night in tips that I have had there. You have to be grateful for what you have and you will attract more good things to you.
Life isn’t always what we think is fair but you have to be grateful for what you have and be happy, learn to love yourself.
It is amazing how our self esteem impacts our life in almost every area and how we were born with our self esteem perfectly intact and how it can diminish over the course of our childhood leaving us as adults feeling worthless and unloved. This is not true at all, you are unique and special. If you or someone you love are suffering from low self esteem I would like to suggest you read “How to Build Your Self-Esteem in Just One Weekend“ it is easy to understand and full of exercises and helpful information. You owe it to yourself, you deserve to be happy and feel good about yourself!
I am here to offer my help and believe me when I tell you that I know how it feels to have low self esteem as I have been there, it’s not where you want to be, you deserve so much more and I hope that I can be of help to you. Please feel free to leave a comment or ask for more information or even offer any suggestions I would love to hear from you and know what you are thinking.
You are AWESOME!
Live, Love, Laugh,
Kathy