To be Happy is a Choice! And yes we all have that choice. Some of us just let others influence our lives to the point that we don’t know who we really are anymore and we are no longer who we started out to be. We get so lost sometimes just trying to live our lives to please others, seeking their approval, making sure their needs are met, trying to make them happy, that in the process we forget who we really are, what we want and what makes us happy. We seem to find it easier to let someone else do our thinking for us, maybe because we have someone to blame when things don’t go the way we think they should.  In the words of Socrates “To find yourself, think for yourself” become all that you were meant to be. If you let someone else do Your thinking for you then you can only become what they think you should be.                     Take responsibility for who you are, be strong and don’t give up, you have your whole life to get it right, one day at a time but the key is that You have to Start. One expression I have heard quite often is “You don’t have to get it right, you just have to get it going” There will never be a better time to get it going than today, for tomorrow may never come.                                                                                Be happy with You and become lovable from the inside out. You are only cheating yourself if you don’t. Be yourself, love who you are because if you don’t love yourself then you may never know what it truly feels like to be loved. If you really want to be loved then you first must be lovable, are you lovable??? Do you value who you are? That is the first step to loving yourself by   placing value on who you are. When you value (love) who you are then others will be able to see that and value you all the more.                                                                    Your self esteem plays a big role in how you value yourself. We were all born with a healthy self esteem but sometimes in the process of growing up we come in contact with other people that have low self esteem and the relationships we have with those people can sometimes rob you of your own self esteem. People that aren’t happy don’t want you to be happy either. They will do everything they can to try and keep you on their level. You have to realize that you are better than that and don’t let anyone belittle or degrade you.                     You have to develop a new self image, be more positive about yourself, recognize what you can and can not change about yourself and change the things you can. Try not to be perfect because no one is. Your imperfections make you unique and special.                   Don’t be afraid to be different and voice your opinions and ideas and take pride in doing so. Relax and enjoy who you are and have fun, don’t put your life on hold until everything is perfect because it may never be. Always move forward toward your goals and ideals and never give up on them or you!                                                      It’s never too late to develop a healthy self esteem and become lovable but it may take a little time and work so be patient, don’t get discouraged. You may need the help of a professional but if you want to try it on your own first I would like to suggest that you read “How to Build Your Self Esteem In Just One Weekend” and you also might like “7 Power Words To Live By For a Meaningful and Happy Life” both Books will guide you to learning more about You and how to Become Lovable! Remember You are Awesome! And also remember; I have been where you are and I want you to know that I am here to help you and guide you in any way I can, you can over come low self esteem!

Live, Laugh, Love,Kathy

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