Have you ever stopped to think about how your self esteem affects other areas of your well-being? If you are suffering from low self esteem chances are you are also suffering in other areas of your life such as your health, both mental and physical, it can affect your emotional wellness, your relationships and so much more.There are so many people that don’t really realize that they are suffering from poor self esteem. They may realize that some things are just not right or that they are just not happy but not really realize it to be a self esteem issue. We live in a society that is consumed with conditioning. We tend to become brain washed so to speak into letting others control the way we value ourselves.Poor self image is a good example of this conditioning. We have manifested the idea in our minds that if we don’t look like the model on the front of a fitness or glamour magazine that we are inferior and we develop a dislike for who we see in the mirror each morning. There are women who take drastic measures to make themselves look more like those models  by having plastic surgery, breast augmentation, tummy tucks, you name it and it can probably be done and someone has probably done it but the truth is…..THESE THINGS DON’T MAKE YOU ANY MORE LOVABLE OR ANY HAPPIER! You should be happy with the body that God has given you, God made you to be perfect in his eyes, so what else matters? Changing your appearance on the outside changes nothing on the inside, you are still the same person. Maybe you  should change your thinking first and get in touch with who you really are before going to such drastic measures as surgery and then if you  still want to change the way you look at least you will be doing it to please yourself  not to be accepted by others. You have to be happy with you.If you are unhappy with areas of your life that you can change then you need to take steps to make these changes, sitting around crying about them or wishing things were different won’t change them, you have to work towards them.  Let’s work on building a higher self-esteem and see how all the areas of your life improve. Work on your physical and mental health first and you will be able to think more clearly and you will certainly feel much better, have more energy and be able to take on whatever life has to offer. You can do it!Live, Laugh, Love, Give, Accept, Forgive, do all these things and you will be well on your way to a happier you.                                                                                                                                 Check out “How to Build Your Self-Esteem in Just One Weekend” and also “7PowerWords to Live By“Live, Laugh, Love, Kathy

It really is amazing all the un-truth’s we tell ourselves to make us feel better, but you know it’s not so much making us feel better as it is making us feel unaccountable for the things that are making us feel inadequate, un-loved, rejected, or for when things don’t go our way etc….

It is much easier to have a pity party than to accept responsibility for ourselves and our happiness. We use all these misbeliefs or un-truths as excuses as to why our lives aren’t what we think they should be.

Low self-esteem is a big contributor to the misbeliefs and un-truths we learn to acquire. Most of what happens in your life happened because of the way you think. We need to get rid of all the negative thoughts and influences around us and re-train our minds with the truth. If you think about it there are negative things everywhere you look, the news is the worst. Why would you want to watch the news right before you go to bed and have all those negative thoughts and images running through your mind all night? It’s no wonder some of us are so messed up. We are conditioned to be this way.

Have you ever heard anyone say something like “I can’t win for loosing”? or “If something bad was going to happen it would happen to me”  “nobody loves me” . It’s like they have given up control of their life or have given someone else control over it. Sometimes it makes us feel a little better to think that it’s not “our fault” so the blame is not ours.

It’s easy to give control to others, that way you don’t have to take responsibility for what is happening in your life, it’s an easy out. You need to take back control of your life and you can start by telling yourself the truth and omitting the negative thoughts and actions from your life. You need to regain your self respect and work on building a higher self-esteem. You are a valued human being worthy of God’s love, and if you are good enough for God to love then you are worthy of self love and the love of others. Just remember that you may not be loved by everyone and that’s ok, you will live, it’s not that bad, just tell yourself “It’s alright if everybody doesn’t like me!”

I am going to leave you with a few truths to empower your and that will help you on your journey to becoming lovable.

- It’s not necessary to be liked by everyone

- I do not have to earn anyone’s approval or acceptance

- My needs and wants are as important as anyone else’s

- I am a child of God and he loves me and has accepted me for who I am.

- Not being approved of or accepted is not terrible

- Rejection is not terrible just unpleasant

- It is a misbelief that I must please others and be approved by them

- Other people do not decide my value

- I am lovable

You are Awesome!

Live, Laugh, Love,

Kathy

Life without love is useless. Love empowers you to be all that you can be. Relationships are what life is all about and if you want to find love, you’ve got to give love. We live in a society where deep relationships are hard to establish and where impersonal contacts are more common. Low self-esteem has a lot to do with us not letting love into our lives, we feel vulnerable and fear getting our hearts broken. True fulfillment and happiness come from giving of ourselves and knowing who we are and what we want. The greater challenge is to then let the ones we love know who we are but you can only be loved to the extent to which you allow your real self to be known. You need to stop letting fear rule your life and be willing to take a chance.There are two types of people in this world and they are Givers and Takers. I’m sure that you would agree that you would rather have givers in your life than takers right? Givers give their love to us freely; they give their time; they give us encouragement and support. Are you that kind of person in your relationships? If that is the kind of person you want to have a relationship with, then you must become that person. The statement “like attracts like” is so very true. Try looking at everyone you meet as a mirror, do you like what you see? Do you want to be like that person? You have the power to be what you want to be, no one has the right to make you anything different, you are in control of you.Communication and understanding are very important elements in a relationship. You need to be committed to genuinely understand yourself and others, if not it will all mean nothing.There is no such thing as love on demand. Love is a daily, mutual exchange of values that you must continually work at. You can’t expect things to just stay the same, they are constantly changing and you need to communicate to keep things fresh and new. Don’t expect people to read your mind because they can’t, they don’t always know what you need or want, learn to share, communicate and understand each other. Love is one of the 7 Power Words in Letty Vendramini’s book “7 Power Words to Live By for a Meaningful and Happy Life”.  Life was meant to be lived to the fullest but some of us just don’t know how and need a little help. The 7 Power words will help you to begin your journey to personal success, wealth, health, fulfillment, joy, happiness and love. Let’s take this to the next level ! You are Awesome!Live. Laugh. Love,Kathy                                                   

Let’s take a little “Day Break” Sometimes I think we tend to take life to seriously. Life was intended to be a joy. Remember back when we were kids…the only thing we had to worry about was what we were going to play and who was going to play with us. What happened to those times? It’s a shame that when we grow up we stop playing.

Life is too short to be so serious all the time, if you want to be truly happy you have to take some time out of your day to do something you consider “fun”  and it doesn’t matter what that is….it can be anything or even nothing if that’s what you want to do. You just need to take a break from all the “adult” stuff and become a kid (even if in your mind) for just a few minuets. Forget about the bills for a moment, forget about the laundry, it will all still be there when you get back from your little day break….go have a little fun.

Self nurturing is a very important part of keeping your self-esteem intact. You need to take care of you mentally and physically and treat yourself as a worthwhile lovable person because that’s what you are. I know it’s hard to feel worthwhile and lovable when people around you make you feel just the opposite and I know it is so easy to let the things they say and do and the way they treat you influence the way you feel about yourself. We were taught as children to listen to those in authority such as parents, teachers, other adults and sometimes those people were less than supportive and encouraging leaving you to feel less than lovable. I think once we begin to feel worthless we have a tendency to listen to more and more people not just authority figures and we let them dictate our worth.

That is what needs to be stopped. You deserve to feel loved and sometimes you just have to tell the people around you that you are a worthwhile person and that you deserve to be loved.  Let them know how you feel about the way they treat you. Don’t be afraid to tell them and don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Getting help from others is a very important step and sometimes one of the most difficult to help you improve your self-esteem. Ask your friends and family for their support, don’t be afraid to ask for a hug.

Don’t be afraid of change. I heard a quote the other day and it is so true…”If nothing ever changed….there wouldn’t be any butterflies”  Sometimes change is a good thing, just look at the butterfly, they go from a worm, wrap themselves up in a cocoon and eventually emerge a beautiful butterfly. The problem we run into sometimes is we build that cocoon and we don’t give ourselves the chance to turn into that beautiful butterfly.

Come out of your cocoon and become lovable and be everything that God created you to be. God loves you and he wants you to be happy, God created you for greatness in his image. Remember God doesn’t create junk…You are Awesome!

If you are ready to Become Loveable and build a higher self-esteem you need to check out “How to Build Higher Self-Esteem in Just One Weekend“  this e-book is filled with information and exercises to help you with your self-esteem issues or to help you help someone else over come their problem.

We are all unique in our own way and different things work for different people so don’t be discouraged….You will get it!  You are Awesome! You are Beautiful and deserve to be Loved!!!

Till we meet again….You are Awesome!

Live, Laugh, Love,

Kathy

P.S. you might also want to check out  “7 Power Words to Live By“   a very uplifting and powerful read