It really is amazing all the un-truth’s we tell ourselves to make us feel better, but you know it’s not so much making us feel better as it is making us feel unaccountable for the things that are making us feel inadequate, un-loved, rejected, or for when things don’t go our way etc….

It is much easier to have a pity party than to accept responsibility for ourselves and our happiness. We use all these misbeliefs or un-truths as excuses as to why our lives aren’t what we think they should be.

Low self-esteem is a big contributor to the misbeliefs and un-truths we learn to acquire. Most of what happens in your life happened because of the way you think. We need to get rid of all the negative thoughts and influences around us and re-train our minds with the truth. If you think about it there are negative things everywhere you look, the news is the worst. Why would you want to watch the news right before you go to bed and have all those negative thoughts and images running through your mind all night? It’s no wonder some of us are so messed up. We are conditioned to be this way.

Have you ever heard anyone say something like “I can’t win for loosing”? or “If something bad was going to happen it would happen to me”  “nobody loves me” . It’s like they have given up control of their life or have given someone else control over it. Sometimes it makes us feel a little better to think that it’s not “our fault” so the blame is not ours.

It’s easy to give control to others, that way you don’t have to take responsibility for what is happening in your life, it’s an easy out. You need to take back control of your life and you can start by telling yourself the truth and omitting the negative thoughts and actions from your life. You need to regain your self respect and work on building a higher self-esteem. You are a valued human being worthy of God’s love, and if you are good enough for God to love then you are worthy of self love and the love of others. Just remember that you may not be loved by everyone and that’s ok, you will live, it’s not that bad, just tell yourself “It’s alright if everybody doesn’t like me!”

I am going to leave you with a few truths to empower your and that will help you on your journey to becoming lovable.

- It’s not necessary to be liked by everyone

- I do not have to earn anyone’s approval or acceptance

- My needs and wants are as important as anyone else’s

- I am a child of God and he loves me and has accepted me for who I am.

- Not being approved of or accepted is not terrible

- Rejection is not terrible just unpleasant

- It is a misbelief that I must please others and be approved by them

- Other people do not decide my value

- I am lovable

You are Awesome!

Live, Laugh, Love,

Kathy