No man can ever give you your self worth, but you can let many rob you of it. Read that again…..No man can ever give you your self worth, but many can rob you of it. Do you understand what is being said here? You have to determine your own self worth and not let what you think others think of you influence how you see your self. Don’t live your life for someone else or through someone else, live your life for you! Only you can determine your value and only you can give someone else the power to rob you of your self esteem. You are in control how you let others treat you.
Have you ever really thought about why people really get married….and some times at such an early age? We marry to grow up and to get away from our parents, most of us don’t even know who we are at this point in time but we think that this is the right thing to do when this really couldn’t be further from the truth. The truth is that sometimes we marry for all the wrong reasons, and we usually marry the wrong person. We think that when we get married that our lives are going to change so much, and for the better. We are so excited that we are going to start a new live and be all grown up but then things begin to change. All of a sudden things aren’t fun anymore and the person we married and thought we loved suddenly starts to change. If you were unhappy at home then you more than likely will be unhappy with your marriage. You have to be happy with you before you can be happy in a relationship.
Your marriage can only be as happy and emotionally healthy and content as you are. Many of us settle for less than the love we deserve because we lack the self love we are desperately hoping to find in a relationship. A relationship can not fill the void if you are lacking a healthy self esteem. You may end up loosing yourself instead of finding yourself if you are looking for the other persons feelings and value of you to determine who you are.
If you begin to find the relationship lonely and unfulfilling you may begin to believe that it is a reflection of you and that you must have done something wrong, that there is something lacking in you. You have to be true to yourself and be courageous and turn away from using your relationship as a reflector of your worth, sometimes there are just bad relationships and that’s not your fault.
You are an intelligent, compassionate, warm, strong, generous, powerful, beautiful person and if you don’t see this then you have been looking for your worth in all the wrong faces…..Take a look in the mirror….there you will find your self worth!
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
www.becomelovable.com
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12:58 am
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1:18 pm
You have some great post here. I have sent links to your post to my girlfriend. She really has self esteem problems for no reason. She is very very beautiful. She is 5′ 11″ has a pretty face beautiful hourglass shape, healthy and smart. I tell her she is very lucky and blessed to have everything the most women would love to have. But she has low self esteem and that brings out trust issues and is the cause of us breaking up. I hope she can overcome her problems someday. I have tried to make her understand for almost 4 years.
5:02 pm
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4:15 am
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10:10 am
I found this site today and was thrilled! I’m 32 years old and fell in love with a man for the first time. He belittled me, told me that everything that happens in my life was because I caused them. Such as a car accident I was in, and fired from my job because my supervisor was sexually harrassing me. Which there is a law suit pending over all of this. He told me that I caused this all. I have always owned up to any wrong doing I may have caused. Last night a light turned on, like a flashing red sign!! I realized that I gave this man power. Power to put me down, to make me feel I was worth nothing and that he was above me because he held a higher degree in education. I will never let a man or anyone rob me of what I deserve…Respect! Like the saying….Treat others how you would like to be treated. I’m a very humble person and I would never ever treat others differently due to having less or more than what I have. I enjoyed viewing your site. Thank you!