If you want to live the life you were destined to live you have to learn to love yourself more. I know you may think you love yourself but do you really? Do you value you you for who you are or do you place value on yourself from the way you feel others feel about you?
We need to learn to love and take care of ourselves, we need to be loving and giving to ourselves too. There are many ways this can be done but the first step is to know that you are lovable and worthy of being loved even by yourself.
Other’s opinion of you are very insignificant, they should not determine how you feel about yourself. No one knows you better than you do. If you have lost rack of who you are then you should make it a priority to figure out who you are and what you want out of life.
You need to choose the qualities that you want to have and then develop those qualities a few at a time. Even though you may not believe it, you need to repeat those qualities to yourself over and over until you until you do believe it.
The more you love yourself the more you will be able to give love to others, and the more love you give to others the more love you will get in return. Loving yourself not only benefits you but others around you making it a win-win situation for everyone.
So be good to yourself, take care to nourish your body, mind, and soul, treat yourself like you are special…..Because You Are! and it begins with loving yourself first.
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~
Have you ever thought of your life as a journey? Well if you think about it you will see that your life is a journey from beginning to end.You need to understand that you are the map maker and the captain of this incredible journey and it is up to you to see that everything goes the way you want it to.
This journey can be effortless or hard it all depends on you and your mindset. It is very important that you have a positive if you want things to flow in the direction of your dreams.
Dreams are our lives greatest adventures into the unknown, they are what keep us going even though there is no clear path or destination but the challenge to become more than who we were when we began keeps us going.
I will tell you straight out that following you dreams will not always be easy, there will countless times when you will lose your focus and things will get complicated and overwhelming. You may experience inner doubts and failure and be saying to yourself “why bother? this is a crazy dream and no one supports me or understands, maybe I should give up” Never Give Up!
Dreams are about self not about what others think of your dream. You have to decide to take a risk knowing that there are no guarantees you will succeed but you know that if you don’t take the risk you are guaranteed you will never live “Your Dream”
Action is necessary! To exist is to change, and if you continue to do what you have always done you will get what you have always gotten so if you are dreaming of greater things for you live than what you have now then MOVE! Take the necessary steps to overcome any self doubt and insecurities and become all that you can be. You can do it!
Make an effort everyday to do at least one thing that moves you closer to your dream. Remain steadfast in your decision that what you want is important to you, it doesn’t matter if it’s not important to anyone else, it’s not their dream it’s yours. You don’t need their approval, this is about you, your dreams, your life, your self growth.
God created you for Greatness!
You have a responsibility to yourself to continue to create the lovable, unique, powerful person that you were created to be. It’s not up to others to make you feel this way, this one is all on you, you are the only one that can make you happy.
Fall in love with the journey. Fall in love with yourself for having a dream. Dreams have more to with who we become during the process than what we achieve at the end. Remember too that “nothing ventured, nothing gained” You are worth the effort so Dream Big!
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy @}~~~~~~~~~~
Remember last week when I told you about my friend Tiffany? Well I would like to say “Congratulations! I am so proud of you!” No she didn’t make it but she still deserves to be congratulated for taking the chance to go for her dreams, and I am proud of her not only for putting forth the effort but for the way she handled not making it to the next round.
She sent me a message right after her audition and told me that she didn’t make it, and the part that impressed me the most was when in the same breath she said “that’s ok there is always next year” what a great way to accept not winning.
She wasn’t devastated and isn’t going to throw in the towel and give up. She is still confident enough in who she is and her talents that she is willing to give it another shot. She really is quite good by the way and she has the voice, but maybe the timing just isn’t right, who knows, the important thing is that she isn’t giving up.
Have you ever wanted something so bad but were afraid to do what it takes to get it? I know I have and I know at one point Tiffany was too. You have to take steps to over come those fears and also be willing to accept set backs when things don’t work out, just remember not to give up.
If you are suffering from low self esteem or lack of self confidence you need to take necessary steps to find the root cause of why you are lacking in these areas. It is possible that it reaches all the way back to your childhood.
It is easy sometimes for us to forget as we grow up the things that really had a negative impact on us when we were children. We were not all blessed with the perfect childhood and perfect surroundings but we grew up the best we could with what we were dealt.
As adults we need to take responsibility for who we are now and start living our dreams, the life we were created for. Sometimes all it takes is a change of mindset.
I know it sounds a little scary to take responsibility for who we are when it is so much easier to blame someone else for our problems but we must become accountable, it is up to you to become the lovable person you were born to be, not anyone else’s.
We were all born perfect and for Greatness! Now it is up to you to discover what that means to you.
I think most of us could learn a lesson from Tiffany, we need to discover who we are, what we want out of life and find the courage to take the risk and go for that dream. Nothing ventured nothing gained.
Self discovery is an amazing and wonderful experience and I would like to help you along your way in anyway I can. I encourage any feedback you could give me so that I can be of better service to you. If you have a special need that you are struggling with please feel free to let me know and I will be more that happy to listen and to offer some thoughts and insights that I might have that could be of help to you.
Go out there and find your Greatness!
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy @~}~~~~~
I am so excited, My best friend Tiffany is trying out for American Idol! This is something she has been wanting to do for a long time and finnaly found the courage to do it.It’s funny that it was’t that long ago she was affraid to get up in front of people and sing. She was like many of us and was affraid, affraid not just to be up in front of people, but affraid that they wouldn’t like her singing. She didn’t want to be ridiculed. That’s funny because she knew she was good so why would she doubt that others wouldn’t feel the same? She had no problem singing for her family of just singing to the radio but she could just never get herself to sing in front of other people.One night I went out with her and we went to a small bar where the were having karaoke. We went with the intentions that she was going to sing. You could see that she wanted to really badly but she just couldn’t get herself to get up there and do it and tried to get me to go up there and sing with her, I assured her that no one wanted to hear me sing….ever… lol. She looked at the song list over and over but just kept stalling, she looked so long that a couple guys walked by and asked her if she just came to read or if she was going to sing some time that night. lol Right after that she wanted to go get a drink and asked me if I wanted to go with her, I told her to go ahead and that I would just stay at the table and listen to them sing, and some of them were really bad but you had to give them credit for having the courage to get up there and do what they enjoyed doing whether they were good or not.Well while she was in the other room I went up to the people running the music and told them that they really needed to get Tiffany up there to sing, I thought that maybe if they told her she was next she would do it, they said ok and asked what song they should have her sing so I picked her favorite song for them to play.
When she came back in the room the girl running things walked up to Tiffany and said “hey you are next” Tiffany was so surprise and she just said ”ok…. but what will I sing?” they assured her that they had something picked out for her. You should have seen the look on her face when they told her the name of the song, she was grinning from ear to ear, she looked at me and said “how did they know I loved this song?”
She was so nervous but she went up there and sang like she belonged there on that stage. The people were so impressed that they had her sing song after song and people stopped playing pool in the other room and came in to watch and listen to her sing. She was in heaven, doing what she loved to do.
Isn’t it funny how some of us have to be coaxed or pushed into finding our greatness? we are were not all fortunate enough to be born with the courage and self esteem needed to get us through all the trials we face each day. Another milestone that I didn’t mention was one of my own, it was very much out of character for me to go up there and ask those people to make her sing, but I knew I had to put my fear aside and step out of my comfort zone so I could help my friend step out of hers.
We all need a little help sometimes, maybe even a little push, to step out of our comfort zone and become what were created to for….Greatness! We all need the chance to go for our dreams!
I am glad I was there for Tiffany and helped her to take one of her first steps to uncovering her greatness and I would also like to help you in any way I can. I hope that by me sharing with you my thoughts and experiences that it will somehow help encourage you to seek and find all that you are looking for.
Be the best that you can be! Good Luck Tiffany!!!
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy