Become Lovable

Self Esteem: Lovablility, Happiness

ladyfitzi — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 06:01:46 +0000

What is it that you need or want out of life that would make you happy? Sounds like an easy question doesn’t it? Well for the majority of us it really is Not easy to answer at all. Most people would probably say Money! After all money makes the world go round right? Money alone can not make you happy, it might be a quick short fix but that’s about it. Others might say a new home or a new car, maybe even a new relationship, but then again these are only things and things cannot make you happy.

The only thing that can make you happy is “You”! Happiness is a choice! not a bunch of superficial things, they just temporarily fill a void.

The first step to happiness is loving yourself first, the rest will follow. Becoming Loveable is really not that hard to do because you were “born lovable” but somewhere along the way in your journey to adulthood we come in contact with negative energies and people that rob us of our lovability, others that have lost their way to happiness.

Some of these people just don’t know any better because that’s how they grew up and that’s all they know. They think that if they aren’t happy then no one should be happy, so they make every effort to make the lives of those around them just as miserable as they are.

But I know you are different! and you want more out of life than just living it, you want all the happiness and excitement that you deserve and you are going to do everything you can to find it and you know that to do that you must take action! Happiness and all the good things in life are not just going to come to you because you want them, You have to make an effort and move toward what you want and become the lovable happy person that God created you to be and I am here to help you to find the tools to do just that.

You are Awesome!

Live, Laugh, Love,

Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~

Self-Esteem: Be Yourself, Courage, Just Have Fun

ladyfitzi — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 05:37:18 +0000

It’s getting close to the holliday season …now that Halloween is over….oh and by the way Halloween was a blast. My costume turned out Great!

I make my costumes and this one I must say was one of my best yet. I was a he-she lol If I can figure out how do do it I will post a picture for you to see just how crazy it was.

I really had a good time with this costume. I wore it to work and then went out in the evening with it on. there really were some crazy costumes out there that night.

I think it is great to see people dressing up in the silliest costumes just to have a good time. A few years ago I never would have dressed up like that for fear that someone would make fun of me but you know what? I stopped thinking that way….life is too short to worry about what other people think of you. What’s more important is that you feel comfortable being you and if you want to put on a costume and have fun…then do it!

Ok I guess I really didn’t explain my costume did I? well for those of you that don’t know what my made-up word “HE-SHE” is….it’s a half man and half woman….yes I wore a dress on one side with the long hair, make-up, stockings and sandals and on the other side I wore a vest, pants, a tie, short hair and a drawn on facial hair lol….like I said it was great.

It’s really kind of fun to just act silly sometimes. I was standing there and my feet started hurting so I started tapping my foot and acting like I was dancing …but just the girl side was doing it. When I would catch someone looking at me I would just tell them ” typical man, he doesn’t want to dance” I just had a good time joking with people, it was great!

We need to take the time to do things like this a little more often, why wait? Step out of the box and out of your comfort zone and see what’s it’s like . Take a chance and let the real you come out.

You are Awesome!

Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Self Esteem: Comfort Zone, Liberation, Fun

ladyfitzi — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 04:22:51 +0000

It’s time for ghost and goblins, tomorrow is Halloween!!

Do you have any plans for Halloween? You know this would be a good day to try and step out of the box and out of your comfort zone by dressing up and having a little fun. What better time than Halloween is there to dress up and just look silly?

I know it may sound a little silly yet there really is something quite liberating about dressing up in a costume and maybe looking a little silly.

It really is quite fun. I know for some of you this may sound like a difficult thing to do but it’s really not that bad, try it!

I have been dressing up for the past 8 years….something before that I never really thought about doing…yet once I did it….I love to dress up….I do it knowing that no one else where I work will dress up in anything more than just a seasonal sweater or some sort of outfit, but I will be the only one in costume….and you know what??? that’s OK!

I have never yet had anyone tell me that I was stupid or anything like that, most people enjoy it, it makes them laugh…and to me that’s what it’s all about….laughing and having a good time.

I read a little poem today and I would like to share it with you, I’m not sure who wrote it but it had a little hidden message in it that I will share after you read it.

We bought a fat orange pumkin

The plumpest sort they sell.

We neatly scooped the inside out

And only left the shell.

We carved a funny looking face

Of silly shape and size,

A pointy nose, a jagged mouth

And two enormous eyes.

We set it in a window

And we put a candle in,

Then lit it up for all to see

Our jack-o’lantern grin.

The jacl-o’antern chuckled

Then winked his funny eye,

“I would rather be a pumkin-face

Than be inside a pie.”

Jolly wolly pumpkin-face

You’re happy tell us why.

I’d rather be a pumpkin face

And not a pumpkin pie!

Well did you see any little messages in there? I found more than one if you really think about it. I think one of the most important things it is saying is don’t just be an empty shell with all the insides scooped out and feeling like you are put on display but look at the positive side and be glad for where you are because things could always be worse.

Be Happy from the iside out and let your light shine for the whole world to see!

Have a safe and Happy Halloween and step out on the wild side…dress up and have some fun. Don’t worry about what others think….Just Do It! You will be glad you did.

If you do dress up I would love to hear from you about how it went and to see your costume and I will share mine with you as well ok?

you are Awesome!

Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~

www.becomelovable.com

Self Esteem: Change, Empowerment, Discovery

ladyfitzi — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 04:39:50 +0000

It seems like everything is changing right now, do you like change? I know a lot of people don’t like change of any kind. You might be one of them I don’t know, but you know what??? If nothing ever changed then things would always be the same…….right? I think that would be a little boring.

I know some changes are scary and unpleasant such as some of the changes my family has been going through here in the past month or so. My dad has been in the hospital since September 10th and it has been a roller-coaster ride ever since, one day he is a little better and the next he’s not so good. My poor mom has been spending day and night at the hospital just to make sure that she knows what’s going on and to catch all the Dr’s as they come and go.

I’m sure you can see what a change that is for my parents, it’s like a virtual life shift. My Dad has gone from being a workaholic, there was always something that needed done, to lying in bed not even being able to sit up by himself and for no more than a couple min. He is also a man that loves to eat, and now he has been on a feeding tube since Sept. 13th. WOW what a change that would be for anyone don’t you think?

As I am writingthis I am overcome with the feeling of wanting to give my dad a BIG hug right now, tears welling up as I think about how humiliating it must be for him to have all those nurses and Dr’s treating him like a lab project. I just want to hold him and tell him that I love him and for him to be strong and get better.

This really isn’t where I had planned on going tonight…..but here we are. Must be something I need to share. It might also help you to know that my dad and I don’t always see things eye to eye and that we seem to have personality clashes…it’s like he can’t help but make me feel stupid or that I am wrong all the time. He just has a natural nack for irritating me but I have come to accept that and don’t take the things he says to heart anymore.

You see I was giving him the power to make me feel that way. I have discovered that You should never give anyone the power to make you feel stupid or inadequet because you are not. You are as smart as anyone, you are as lovable as anyone and you are just as important as anyone, you just have to believe that yourself.

Sometimes that is hard for us to see because that’s all we know, we were more than likely raised that way. Our self esteem doesn’t just manifest over night, it takes time for these perception to build up in our mind and it begins from the time we were born. The people around us were the biggest influences in our life.

It’s time to take back that power and become the unique, powerful person that you were created to be. You hold the key to your life, your happiness, your success, so unlock that power and begin to LIVE!

Life is too short to be unhappy and you never know when your time may come….. you may even find yourself fighting for your life, maybe just like my dad, in the true sense of the word.

Get help whether it be from a friend, a life coach, or if you would like to try to help yourself, it doesn’t matter how, just get help and become lovable in your own mind then you will manifest that and others will follow. You are like a mirror, like attracts like. I like you

If you are looking to overcome a low Self Esteem I think you should check out “How to Build Your Self Esteem in Just One Weekend” I’m not saying that it will only take a weekend to get rid of the feelings of low self esteem but it will give you a lot of good useful information, quizzes and how to’s to help you on your discovery of YOU.

I have also found “7 Power Words to Live by for a Meaningful and Happy Life” to be very useful as well. Check it out.

You deserve to be Happy!

You are Awesome!

Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~~

www.becomelovable.com

Additional resources:

NEURO-vision Hypnosis by Alan Densky

DNA of Success by Jack Zufelt

Self Esteem: Sharing, Love, Prayer

ladyfitzi — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 04:50:05 +0000

I am sitting here trying to think of something to write yet there are too many things running through my mind right now to concentrate on what I am doing. Have you ever had that problem? Some days things just don’t come together and this is one of them.

I try my best to bring you information that may be helpful to you in your quest to become a lovable you. It would be beneficial to me if I had some idea of what things you most want to hear about or need help with the most.

I would like to invite you to share with me your most burning questions or comments on what it means to you be lovable. If you have a story that you would like to share that would be of value with my readers I would be more than happy to post it here.

Sometimes it can be very uplifting to hear how someone else has triumphed over a particular problem in their life that may be similar to something you or someone you know is going through. It may even give hope knowing that they are not the only one suffering from such a problem.

It can be very helpful sometimes just to know you are not alone, that other people are going through some of the same things you are.

Don’t be afraid to share your feelings with others, sometimes it is very helpful just to verbalize or write what it is that you are thinking and feeling. The funny part is sometimes when you do that you end up answering your own questions. You have all the answers you just don’t know it.

I would like to be your sounding board if you are in need of one, after all what are friends for If you have a problem I would be honored to listen and to help you in any way I can, I am here for YOU!

I would also like to share with you tonight that my father is still in the hospital and still in need of your prayers. He is doing a little better today. So far this has been a roller-coaster ride, one day he is better and the next they aren’t sure if he is going to make it at all. Needless to say this has been a very difficult and trying time for my family. Thank you for all your prayers.

Sometimes you get to a point that all you have left is your faith in God. The power of prayer is a mighty and wonderous thing. Take each day as it is given and live it to the fullest, for you never know when it will be your last.

Live is too short to waste it on regrets, could haves or should have beens. Life is a gift so celebrate it and be happy, go have some fun!

God Bless you………..You are Awesome!!!

Live, Laugh, Love,

Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

P.S. Here are a few things you might want to check out that may be of help to you:

“How to Build Your Self Esteem in Just One weekend” by Zhou Juan

“How to Forgive Yourself” by Mark Ivar Myhre

“7 Power Words to Live by for a Meaningful and Happy Life” by Leticia Vandramini

“DNA of Success” by Jack Zufelt

Self Esteem: Love Life, Purpose, Destiny

ladyfitzi — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 21:53:52 +0000

Have you ever been so stressed out that you don’t what to do or where to turn? Well I have been there and done that and no it’s not a fun place to be.

Wouldn’t it be nice if there were an easy answer to everything? Life seems to be so easy for some people and doesn’t it make you wonder why that is? Why is it that some people make it look so easy? are they better that you? are they smarter than you? are they more lovable than you? My answer would be no, yet they still must know something that you think you don’t right?

Well maybe they do know or have something that you don’t and it could be something as simple as love. We all have felt love before right? But have you ever felt love for yourself? I know that sounds silly but you have to love yourself, respect yourself and have confidence in yourself if you truly want to be happy and fulfilled.

Life doesn’t happen to you it just happens, it’s how you perseive the things that happen that makes all the difference. Try turning all the negative things in your life around to a positive.

I had an instance here just this week that would make a person wonder “Why me!” I took vacation time from work this week to go to Florida with my kids and grand children but we didn’t make it. We had an unbelievable stream of events that seemed to be keeping us here.

We were supposed to leave on Sat. Oct. 4th and we had been planning this trip since Feb. but hadn’t really made plans as far as how to get there until a few weeks before.

Well after we booked the flight my dad ended up in the hospital. Things didn’t seem to be too serious at first so we still planned on making the trip. A few days later things took a turn for the worst, they told us that they still didn’t know what was wrong with him but that he had contracted a staph infection in his blood, the worst possible form of staph and then pneumonia. They were giving him a 50-50 chance of just surviving this and they still didn’t know what was wrong that actually put him in the hospital.

So needless to say we cancelled our flight. Thing were looking pretty bleak for my dad at this point. We were all bummed that we weren’t going on our trip but being here seemed to be more important.

They finally performed surgery to see what was going on as a last resort. My mom insisted, she said she would rather have him die while they were doing something than to see him just lay there and die with them doing nothing. Yes things were that bad.

All seemed to be doing ok, at least he was stable. Since we thought he could be that way for some time we thought we would still try to salvage part of our vacation after mom said thing were looking up a little. My mom hadn’t been contacting us to tell us how he was progressing, I usually had to call her.

We decided on Monday that we would just book a flight and go since we all had taken the time from work and that’s just what we did. We booked a flight at around 9am to leave at 4 pm. We have a little over an hour drive to the airport so we left town around 1pm to head that direction and pick up my son and try to get the tickets printed from his computer.

About 10 min. after we left, actually 11 min because it was 1:11 when my mom called and said that dad was getting worse. We debated all the way to my son’s on whether we should go after the call and being detained by road construction 3 times and getting the call at 1:11. all the signs were telling us not to go but we plugged on.

We got to my son’s and checked to see if the email had come with the tickets but still no tickets and time was slipping away. We were all under a lot of stress at this point wondering if we could cancell the tickets,or if we could make it to the airport on time and if we did would we have time to park the car or check our luggage.

As we got close to the airport my granddaughter was singing “we are going on an airplane, we are going to see the beautiful beach and the beautiful sand” so even under the stress my son started to crack up because of her singing, Well my daughter didn’t think it was funny and she was sitting they crying because the granddaughter was going to be so dissapointed. It really was a gut wrenching moment. You really would have to of been there to fully understand.

Needless to say we missed our flight. As we were heading back to my son’s we passed a Chuckie Cheese so to make the best of a bad situation we stopped to try and salvage the day and put things in perspective. We all turned our attention to seeing the joy on the little granddaughters face as she played. She didn’t understand all that was going on and that’s where she had the advantage over us.

You see the inocence of a child is a marvel, something we all need to go back and experience again. Many of us were not treated and raised as maybe we should have of could have but our childhood shaped who we are today, you see we didn’t know any better then and now we know. We know that it is up to us to lighten up and make the best of all that we face each day and to know that it’s nothing personal and that “Life just Happens”

So make the best out of every situation and enjoy your life to the fullest. You deserve the best.

If you are needing help understanding who you are and what your lifes purpose is, there are many prograhms out there that can be of help. I would like to share with you a few that I have found to be of help to me on my understanding of who I am and how to cope with the life I have been given.

There is an ebook by Leticia Vandramini by the name of ” 7 Power Words to Live By for a Meaningful and Happy Life” She offers you encouragment on how to change your life for the better and to be happy. Life is too short to spend it unhappy.

Some other resources that might be of interest to you are;

“How to Build Your Self Esteem in just One Weekend” by Aurelius Tjin

“How to Forgive Yourself” by Mark Ivar Myher

“DNA of Success ” By Jack Zufelt

“NEURO_vision” Alan Densky

Please take time to check these books out, I am sure they can be of help to you, they have been to me.

Thank You! You are Awesome!

Live, Love, Laugh,

Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

www.becomelovable.com

Self Esteem: Forgiveness

ladyfitzi — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 04:58:29 +0000

I must apologize, I was writing here tonight and something happened that when I went to post it everything disappeared, therefore I have nothing right now and I am sorry.

But remember You are Awesome!

Take care

Kathy @~~}~~~~~~~~~~~~

Self Esteem: Miracles, Power of Prayer, Love, Health

ladyfitzi — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 12:02:14 +0000

I just wanted to write a few words today and update you on my dad. He is in ICU and not doing well at all. He went in because of a stomach problem and they couldn’t figure out what was causing the problem and after 13 days on feeding tubes he ended up with staph and now pneumonia has set in and they have him on a breathing machine so here 22 days later they are doing surgery this morning but they still don’t know what they are looking for.

I guess he is in God’s hands now and all we can do is pray and wait. If there is any of you reading this that believes in the power of prayer,if you feel the need, please take a few seconds and pray for my dad, we need a miracle right now and it would be greatly appreciated.

I would like to share another poem that I wrote if you don’t mind. I call it:

I Do Believe in Miracles

God Bless you every moment

May your days be filled with love

I know God has a plan for us

I’m positive he does

I’m not quite sure just what it is

Yet I’m sure it will be Grand

Because we are all a part

of God’s Miraculous plan

I Do Believe in Miracles!

May God bless each and every one of you! I want you all to know that you are a very important person and God created you for a reason….Greatness!!!

So go out there and live your greatness, take care of yourself and live each day like it will be your last……because you never know, it just may be.

You are the most Awesome and lovable person in the world! God Bless you and Thank You!

Live, Laugh, Love,

Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~~~~

www.becomelovable.com

Self Esteem: Health, Time, Well being

ladyfitzi — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 04:44:44 +0000

I went to the hospital last night to see my dad and I have to tell you that it was a very disturbing thing to see him laying there in that bed hooked up to all those tubes. It was so hard to see him in so much pain and knowing that the Dr’s have no idea what is wrong with him made it all the more horrible.

You know it really is amazing how quick things can change. I was just there to see him on Friday and for someone that hadn’t had any food in 10 days really was looking pretty good. I can’t imagine being hooked up to feeding tubes…I love food way too much lol.

My dad has always been a very active man, a workaholic might be a better way to put it. I think maybe that had a lot to do with why it was so hard to see him like that; helpless and out of controll of what is going on with him.

I know my dad just hates to be there in the hospital right now, I’m sure he feels like he should be working or doing something other than being sick and helpless.

Maybe there is a reason that he is there in that hospital other than the fact that he is sick. Maybe he has something to share with someone and this is the only way he could reach them. Somestimes your body is just trying to tell you to slow down and when you don’t it makes you.

We all need to take care of ourselves mentally and physically. You need to slow down and learn to take life one day at a time and then enjoy it. Don’t spend all your time working, life is too short for that. Take some time every day just for you and do something you enjoy doing.

Be a lover of life and of yourself! Don’t wait till it’s too late to do the things you want to do. You deserve to live a happy and fullfilling life.

You are Awesome!

Live, Love, Laugh,

Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~`

Self Esteem: Never give Up, Never become Idle, Change

ladyfitzi — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 04:55:47 +0000

Have you ever stopped to think about how much your self esteem effects almost every aspect of your being? It really does, it effects your relationships, your job, your success, your outlook on life, your health and the list goes on and on.

A lot of these things are part of our unconsciousness, you see, we aren’t always in touch with our true selves. Sometimes we have given up the right to be ourself and we let others controll who and what we are. Well it’s time that we take back that controll and become everything that we were created to be.

We have been programmed from the time we were a baby to act and to perform and even to think in a certain way, by our parents, teachers, family members friends, maybe not nessesarily the way that God had intended for us to be yet it shaped us into who we have become.

It’s time for you to take back control of your life, your dreams and your self esteem. You need to become “YOU”! You were created for greatness, and now it’s time for you to live that greatness and follow your passion and live the life that you were destined to live.

Don’t be affraid, this is your life, your destiny, so live it the way you are passionate. You must move and take action to get what you want, never become idle, never give up.

Never lose site of the big picture, if you can believe it you can achieve it. You need to dream and dream BIG! then follow that dream until it becomes a reality. Life really is worth living.

Make everyday an adventure and remember to focus on what is important to you and follow that path. Make changes if necessary as you will need to be flexible because things are always changing, even your goals may change from time to time as you begin to see things more clearly.

Growth and change are a part of life and doesn’t mean that you are on the wrong path. When they do change, it just means that it’s time to take a new path as long as you continue to move forward. It’s the moving that is important.

You can create anything you want so why not create the life that you love and follow your dreams? You have the power within you to do just that. So what are you waiting for? Get started now! There is no greater time than the present.

You are Awesome!

Live, Laugh, Love

Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~