I think that we need to take this time to sit with God pray….
Oh please God give us wisdom and the courage to understand the things that we are feeling in our hearts and tell us what’s your plan….
What do you have in store for us and tell us what we need to do, to live our lives in righteousness so that it pleases you….
What burdens must we carry, what sacrifices must we make ,..
To ensure our lives in Heaven and walk through those Pearly Gates…..
I know God you are merciful and you will always hear our prayers…
and you will love us all our days ’till we walk up Heavens stairs….
But please God we need your help right now as time is of the essence, Fill our hearts and our minds and let us feel your presence…..
Give us the answers that we seek so that we clearly understand,
What it is we need to do so that we fulfill your plan…..
By: Kathy Fitzwater
Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Has anyone ever told you that you were beautiful? Well you are! You are a totally beautiful and awesome person, unique and different from anyone else that God has placed on this earth.
The fact that you are different from everyone else on this earth is a good thing whether you realize it or not. Just think about what it would be like if we were all the same…..might be kinda boring huh? If we were all the same and liked the same things then your choices would be very slim don’t you think?
Just imagine everyone living in houses that all looked the same, or all driving the same kind of car, wearing the same style clothes, were the same size, shape and color. That would just be crazy.
I like being different, being unique makes me feel special. Everyone needs to be who they are and not try to be like someone else. It’s not a bad thing to admire someone but don’t try to be just like them because it will never work. You have to develop your own personality and be comfortable being you, you have to love yourself.
Don’t try to look like those models in the magazine that barley have skin on their bones, who cares if you are a little over weight, if you are happy with who you are then it really shouldn’t matter. Never try to change your looks for someone else or try to be someone different than who you are for anyone. The only person you should change for is you! so if you want to make improvements to yourself then by all means do it.
Take it from me…I know I have lived it. I tried to always be what I thought everyone wanted me to be. Did you catch the words “I thought”? This was a thought that I persived in my own mind that this was the way the people around me wanted me to be. Did they ever tell me what they wanted me to be? no I don’t think so….not plain out tell me anyway. I think it was more me thinking that they couldn’t possibly like me for me….I didn’t look like a super model and I wasn’t all poised and confident in myself and that made me feel inferior to everyone around me. If someone told me I was pretty I would just look at them and say “yeah right, me?” I don’t think so. It was “my” perception of things, not neccessarly theirs…. therefore I became a martar so to speak.
I gave up my personal freedom to be what I thought would make those around me happier,“who they wanted me to be”. When you do that sometimes you just feel like you are dying inside. You can become bitter, or worse, you just feel like you want to die. You think to youself “if I were to die right now no one would miss me or even care”
I didn’t feel that I was surounded by people who cared really, I was just there, kinda in the way. I became very shy and introverted. And yes that just made things worse. You can find yourself feeling so many different emotions and that can get very confusing. You want so badly just to have someone love you….for you. But by this time you are lost and don’t know who you are or what you want.
But all hope is not lost, You can learn to love yourself and by loving yourself first others will learn to love you for you….which is what you wanted all along.
Take steps to find who you are. Take care of yourself mentally and physically, pamper yourslef from time to time, treat yourself like the special unique person that you are. You have the power to be whatever you want to be, it’s all a mindset.
Let’s stop and get ride of that marter syndrom and start living the purposeful life that you were intended to live. You were created for Greatness! Be it! Dream it and Dream BIG! Live your life to the fullest, follow your destiny.
You are Awesome!
Live, Love, Laugh,
Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
If you want to live the life you were destined to live you have to learn to love yourself more. I know you may think you love yourself but do you really? Do you value you you for who you are or do you place value on yourself from the way you feel others feel about you?
We need to learn to love and take care of ourselves, we need to be loving and giving to ourselves too. There are many ways this can be done but the first step is to know that you are lovable and worthy of being loved even by yourself.
Other’s opinion of you are very insignificant, they should not determine how you feel about yourself. No one knows you better than you do. If you have lost rack of who you are then you should make it a priority to figure out who you are and what you want out of life.
You need to choose the qualities that you want to have and then develop those qualities a few at a time. Even though you may not believe it, you need to repeat those qualities to yourself over and over until you until you do believe it.
The more you love yourself the more you will be able to give love to others, and the more love you give to others the more love you will get in return. Loving yourself not only benefits you but others around you making it a win-win situation for everyone.
So be good to yourself, take care to nourish your body, mind, and soul, treat yourself like you are special…..Because You Are! and it begins with loving yourself first.
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy @~}~~~~~~~~~~
Have you ever thought of your life as a journey? Well if you think about it you will see that your life is a journey from beginning to end.You need to understand that you are the map maker and the captain of this incredible journey and it is up to you to see that everything goes the way you want it to.
This journey can be effortless or hard it all depends on you and your mindset. It is very important that you have a positive if you want things to flow in the direction of your dreams.
Dreams are our lives greatest adventures into the unknown, they are what keep us going even though there is no clear path or destination but the challenge to become more than who we were when we began keeps us going.
I will tell you straight out that following you dreams will not always be easy, there will countless times when you will lose your focus and things will get complicated and overwhelming. You may experience inner doubts and failure and be saying to yourself “why bother? this is a crazy dream and no one supports me or understands, maybe I should give up” Never Give Up!
Dreams are about self not about what others think of your dream. You have to decide to take a risk knowing that there are no guarantees you will succeed but you know that if you don’t take the risk you are guaranteed you will never live “Your Dream”
Action is necessary! To exist is to change, and if you continue to do what you have always done you will get what you have always gotten so if you are dreaming of greater things for you live than what you have now then MOVE! Take the necessary steps to overcome any self doubt and insecurities and become all that you can be. You can do it!
Make an effort everyday to do at least one thing that moves you closer to your dream. Remain steadfast in your decision that what you want is important to you, it doesn’t matter if it’s not important to anyone else, it’s not their dream it’s yours. You don’t need their approval, this is about you, your dreams, your life, your self growth.
God created you for Greatness!
You have a responsibility to yourself to continue to create the lovable, unique, powerful person that you were created to be. It’s not up to others to make you feel this way, this one is all on you, you are the only one that can make you happy.
Fall in love with the journey. Fall in love with yourself for having a dream. Dreams have more to with who we become during the process than what we achieve at the end. Remember too that “nothing ventured, nothing gained” You are worth the effort so Dream Big!
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy @}~~~~~~~~~~
Remember last week when I told you about my friend Tiffany? Well I would like to say “Congratulations! I am so proud of you!” No she didn’t make it but she still deserves to be congratulated for taking the chance to go for her dreams, and I am proud of her not only for putting forth the effort but for the way she handled not making it to the next round.
She sent me a message right after her audition and told me that she didn’t make it, and the part that impressed me the most was when in the same breath she said “that’s ok there is always next year” what a great way to accept not winning.
She wasn’t devastated and isn’t going to throw in the towel and give up. She is still confident enough in who she is and her talents that she is willing to give it another shot. She really is quite good by the way and she has the voice, but maybe the timing just isn’t right, who knows, the important thing is that she isn’t giving up.
Have you ever wanted something so bad but were afraid to do what it takes to get it? I know I have and I know at one point Tiffany was too. You have to take steps to over come those fears and also be willing to accept set backs when things don’t work out, just remember not to give up.
If you are suffering from low self esteem or lack of self confidence you need to take necessary steps to find the root cause of why you are lacking in these areas. It is possible that it reaches all the way back to your childhood.
It is easy sometimes for us to forget as we grow up the things that really had a negative impact on us when we were children. We were not all blessed with the perfect childhood and perfect surroundings but we grew up the best we could with what we were dealt.
As adults we need to take responsibility for who we are now and start living our dreams, the life we were created for. Sometimes all it takes is a change of mindset.
I know it sounds a little scary to take responsibility for who we are when it is so much easier to blame someone else for our problems but we must become accountable, it is up to you to become the lovable person you were born to be, not anyone else’s.
We were all born perfect and for Greatness! Now it is up to you to discover what that means to you.
I think most of us could learn a lesson from Tiffany, we need to discover who we are, what we want out of life and find the courage to take the risk and go for that dream. Nothing ventured nothing gained.
Self discovery is an amazing and wonderful experience and I would like to help you along your way in anyway I can. I encourage any feedback you could give me so that I can be of better service to you. If you have a special need that you are struggling with please feel free to let me know and I will be more that happy to listen and to offer some thoughts and insights that I might have that could be of help to you.
Go out there and find your Greatness!
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy @~}~~~~~
I am so excited, My best friend Tiffany is trying out for American Idol! This is something she has been wanting to do for a long time and finnaly found the courage to do it.It’s funny that it was’t that long ago she was affraid to get up in front of people and sing. She was like many of us and was affraid, affraid not just to be up in front of people, but affraid that they wouldn’t like her singing. She didn’t want to be ridiculed. That’s funny because she knew she was good so why would she doubt that others wouldn’t feel the same? She had no problem singing for her family of just singing to the radio but she could just never get herself to sing in front of other people.One night I went out with her and we went to a small bar where the were having karaoke. We went with the intentions that she was going to sing. You could see that she wanted to really badly but she just couldn’t get herself to get up there and do it and tried to get me to go up there and sing with her, I assured her that no one wanted to hear me sing….ever… lol. She looked at the song list over and over but just kept stalling, she looked so long that a couple guys walked by and asked her if she just came to read or if she was going to sing some time that night. lol Right after that she wanted to go get a drink and asked me if I wanted to go with her, I told her to go ahead and that I would just stay at the table and listen to them sing, and some of them were really bad but you had to give them credit for having the courage to get up there and do what they enjoyed doing whether they were good or not.Well while she was in the other room I went up to the people running the music and told them that they really needed to get Tiffany up there to sing, I thought that maybe if they told her she was next she would do it, they said ok and asked what song they should have her sing so I picked her favorite song for them to play.
When she came back in the room the girl running things walked up to Tiffany and said “hey you are next” Tiffany was so surprise and she just said ”ok…. but what will I sing?” they assured her that they had something picked out for her. You should have seen the look on her face when they told her the name of the song, she was grinning from ear to ear, she looked at me and said “how did they know I loved this song?”
She was so nervous but she went up there and sang like she belonged there on that stage. The people were so impressed that they had her sing song after song and people stopped playing pool in the other room and came in to watch and listen to her sing. She was in heaven, doing what she loved to do.
Isn’t it funny how some of us have to be coaxed or pushed into finding our greatness? we are were not all fortunate enough to be born with the courage and self esteem needed to get us through all the trials we face each day. Another milestone that I didn’t mention was one of my own, it was very much out of character for me to go up there and ask those people to make her sing, but I knew I had to put my fear aside and step out of my comfort zone so I could help my friend step out of hers.
We all need a little help sometimes, maybe even a little push, to step out of our comfort zone and become what were created to for….Greatness! We all need the chance to go for our dreams!
I am glad I was there for Tiffany and helped her to take one of her first steps to uncovering her greatness and I would also like to help you in any way I can. I hope that by me sharing with you my thoughts and experiences that it will somehow help encourage you to seek and find all that you are looking for.
Be the best that you can be! Good Luck Tiffany!!!
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
What are you passionate about? Have you ever really stopped to think about that for a minuet? Well maybe you should. You deserve to live a life that you are passionate about, not just living a life to be living.
Life without passion can be pretty boring, like you are just going through the motions just to make it through the day. Not having that passion, that burning desire inside you zaps all of your energy where on the other hand if you are living a life you are passionate about you have energy to burn.
Passion itself has it’s own energy. People around you can see that something is different about you and they tend to be drawn to you, being around you makes them feel better and more energetic, they hope that whatever you have they can catch and feel what you are feeling.
Who would you rather be around? a person that was upbeat and passionate or someone that was always gloomy and negative? I would prefer to be around the passionate person and hope that their passion would rub off on me. I don’t want to be one of those people that you spot at the store and you hope they don’t see you so you turn and go the other way in hopes of avoiding them, I think you know what I’m sayin’ right? I want to be the one that you hope stops and talks to you for a moment.
Don’t be afraid to live the life you are passionate about, life is really too short not too. There is really no need to suffer and be afraid, take a chance and live life to the fullest.
I’m sure you have all heard the quote ” Live every day like it will be your last” if you do this then you will have no reason to live a life of regret because you gave life all you have.
I would like to share with you something that happened to me the other day while at the dentist. I was sitting there in the waiting room waiting to be called back to the room when a sweet little white haired lady in a wheel chair was being pushed toward me. I heard ho speak to the receptionist and her voice alone made me smile, it was a high pitched yet soft almost child like little voice. I was sitting at the end of a hallway so we literally came face to face with each other.
Like I said she was a sweet little lady, and when she was right in front of me I looked at her, smiled and said “Hi! How are you” typical right? well she looked at me, smiled back and said ” hello! I’m fine fine fine…no I’m not” all in one breath without ever missing a beat as she was being pushed right passed me.
I’m sure she must get asked that question so much that she gets sick of hearing it, but she was so cute it made everyone in the room smile and chuckle a little. She said what everyone expects her to say and then told how she really felt.
How many times do you say what you think everyone wants to hear? or be one of those that spills their guts and tells their whole sorry life’s story? Don’t be one of those negative people that you want to hide from at the store, instead let your passion shape your life, take a risk and Live!
Don’t be afraid to step outside the box, you can’t and don’t live inside a bubble. Discover who you are! If you are suffering from low self-esteem or lack of self-confidence, that can rob you of living and finding your passion. There is a program fromNeuro-VISION that might be just what you are looking for called Self-Confidence Hypnosis, please take a moment and check it out, You deserve to feel good about your self.
You are awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
Do you ever feel like there is something missing in your life, that there should be something more? Are you looking for something but not really sure what it is? Maybe you are lacking love in your life, the love of yourself. It’s hard to feel emotionally whole when you aren’t in touch with who you are, you just feel like a piece of you is missing.The time has come for you to find that lovable person you have been hiding. Nothing is ever going to change until you do. It’s just like the saying “Do what you have always done and you will get what you have always gotten” so if you are tired of getting the same old thing make a few changes and just see what happens.One of the first things I did that really made a change in my life was to get rid of the negative outlook I had on life. Then I stopped complaining all the time about every little thing that didn’t go the way I wanted it to. When someone would ask “How are you today” I would answer by saying something like “things could be better” or “do you really want to know” then I would proceed to tell them something that was going bad in my life and you know what? People DO NOT want to hear it, they have their own problems. Now when someone is to ask me how I am I just give them a big smile and say “Just Peachy” or “I’m great how, are you?” You might be surprised at the response you get and at how much better it will make you both feel. There really is way too much negative things in the world that can have an effect on you and you not even realize it, just look at the news and all the bad stuff on there; violence, war, the economy, illness the list goes on and on. I stopped watching the news, it’s no wonder people have nightmares when they watch the news right before they go to bed.Life is too short to dwell on the negative. Start trying to be more positive and see what kind of difference it makes in the way you feel, mentally and physically. Begin to take care of yourself first and see that your needs are being met. Don’t be afraid to tell people what you want, people can’t read your mind and if you don’t tell them what you are feeling or what you want or need they just might not know. That is an area that I have always fallen a little short in, I expect people to know what I want and how I feel and I find it very difficult to ask for things. Remember too, if you don’t know what you want or how you are feeling chances are no one else is going to know either. Take a chance and say “no” every once in a while and take note of how that tiny little word has so much power. You are more powerful than you give yourself credit for and it’s time to unleash that power and become everything that you desire. You were born for Greatness!If you are needing a little more help becoming that lovable, powerful person that you have hidden inside you, stick with me and I will continue to share what I have learned with you and try to guide and direct you as to where you can look for more help and information. If there is an area you would like to know more about or an area that you or a loved one are struggling with feel free to let me know and I will do all I can to help you. I have been there and I know what it’s like and there is hope.You are Awesome! Live, Laugh, Love, Kathy
What does it mean to you to be loveable? Not just by someone else but by YOU! Do you unconditionally Love Yourself or do you let others determine your worth? Do you like who you are? Are you happy with the way you look? Do you think you are smart, funny, or maybe even unique? Are you free to be you? These are a few of the questions you need to ask yourself and truthfully answer so you can assess how unconditionally you love and accept yourself.You need to feel free to be yourself, and that is something I have struggled with throughout my life. I always thought that I had to be what everyone else thought I should be and I was afraid that if I didn’t “be and do” what others thought I should that they wouldn’t like me and would treat me poorly. That is the worst thing you could ever do to yourself, never deny who you are to please someone else. You have to break free from worrying about what others think of you and concentrate on what you think of “you”. It has taken me a long time to figure all this out and I am still learning every day. It’s all about knowing what you want and getting in touch with your thoughts and feelings. You have to take ownership of who you are and stop letting other people control you, your thoughts, your feelings, your self worth, that’s not you, you are not a puppet. You are a unique individual and you need to take charge of your life to be happy. If someone doesn’t like you for who you are don’t try to change yourself for them, you deserve better than that. Do you really think that you can deny yourself of you and still be happy? I don’t think so, not truly happy, I have been there done that. Don’t get me wrong I am sure you can convince yourself that you are doing the right thing and that everything will work out but you are just in denial. I think I felt like I didn’t deserve to be happy, that I was inferior and needed someone to tell me what to do; that way I didn’t think I would be held accountable if things didn’t work out because I did as I was told. How crazy is that? You need to step up and take responsibility for yourself. Take steps to find out what makes you tick, your likes and dislikes. Feel free to be yourself. Know that you are ok just the way you are. You are special and there is no one else exactly like you. You learn what you live so live your life to the fullest, be positive, treat others the way you would like to be treated. Love unconditionally and yes that includes your self.
Becoming Lovable is a journey through self discovery. You are who you are and no one has the right to change you except you. Only you can give someone permission to control you and treat you poorly and why would you want to do that? You deserve so much more. I want to help you on your road to self discovery if you will let me, because I think ….You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
No man can ever give you your self worth, but you can let many rob you of it. Read that again…..No man can ever give you your self worth, but many can rob you of it. Do you understand what is being said here? You have to determine your own self worth and not let what you think others think of you influence how you see your self. Don’t live your life for someone else or through someone else, live your life for you! Only you can determine your value and only you can give someone else the power to rob you of your self esteem. You are in control how you let others treat you.
Have you ever really thought about why people really get married….and some times at such an early age? We marry to grow up and to get away from our parents, most of us don’t even know who we are at this point in time but we think that this is the right thing to do when this really couldn’t be further from the truth. The truth is that sometimes we marry for all the wrong reasons, and we usually marry the wrong person. We think that when we get married that our lives are going to change so much, and for the better. We are so excited that we are going to start a new live and be all grown up but then things begin to change. All of a sudden things aren’t fun anymore and the person we married and thought we loved suddenly starts to change. If you were unhappy at home then you more than likely will be unhappy with your marriage. You have to be happy with you before you can be happy in a relationship.
Your marriage can only be as happy and emotionally healthy and content as you are. Many of us settle for less than the love we deserve because we lack the self love we are desperately hoping to find in a relationship. A relationship can not fill the void if you are lacking a healthy self esteem. You may end up loosing yourself instead of finding yourself if you are looking for the other persons feelings and value of you to determine who you are.
If you begin to find the relationship lonely and unfulfilling you may begin to believe that it is a reflection of you and that you must have done something wrong, that there is something lacking in you. You have to be true to yourself and be courageous and turn away from using your relationship as a reflector of your worth, sometimes there are just bad relationships and that’s not your fault.
You are an intelligent, compassionate, warm, strong, generous, powerful, beautiful person and if you don’t see this then you have been looking for your worth in all the wrong faces…..Take a look in the mirror….there you will find your self worth!
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
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