What does it mean to you to be loveable? Not just by someone else but by YOU! Do you unconditionally Love Yourself or do you let others determine your worth? Do you like who you are? Are you happy with the way you look? Do you think you are smart, funny, or maybe even unique? Are you free to be you? These are a few of the questions you need to ask yourself and truthfully answer so you can assess how unconditionally you love and accept yourself.You need to feel free to be yourself, and that is something I have struggled with throughout my life. I always thought that I had to be what everyone else thought I should be and I was afraid that if I didn’t “be and do” what others thought I should that they wouldn’t like me and would treat me poorly. That is the worst thing you could ever do to yourself, never deny who you are to please someone else. You have to break free from worrying about what others think of you and concentrate on what you think of “you”. It has taken me a long time to figure all this out and I am still learning every day. It’s all about knowing what you want and getting in touch with your thoughts and feelings. You have to take ownership of who you are and stop letting other people control you, your thoughts, your feelings, your self worth, that’s not you, you are not a puppet. You are a unique individual and you need to take charge of your life to be happy. If someone doesn’t like you for who you are don’t try to change yourself for them, you deserve better than that. Do you really think that you can deny yourself of you and still be happy? I don’t think so, not truly happy, I have been there done that. Don’t get me wrong I am sure you can convince yourself that you are doing the right thing and that everything will work out but you are just in denial. I think I felt like I didn’t deserve to be happy, that I was inferior and needed someone to tell me what to do; that way I didn’t think I would be held accountable if things didn’t work out because I did as I was told. How crazy is that? You need to step up and take responsibility for yourself. Take steps to find out what makes you tick, your likes and dislikes. Feel free to be yourself. Know that you are ok just the way you are. You are special and there is no one else exactly like you. You learn what you live so live your life to the fullest, be positive, treat others the way you would like to be treated. Love unconditionally and yes that includes your self.
Becoming Lovable is a journey through self discovery. You are who you are and no one has the right to change you except you. Only you can give someone permission to control you and treat you poorly and why would you want to do that? You deserve so much more. I want to help you on your road to self discovery if you will let me, because I think ….You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
No man can ever give you your self worth, but you can let many rob you of it. Read that again…..No man can ever give you your self worth, but many can rob you of it. Do you understand what is being said here? You have to determine your own self worth and not let what you think others think of you influence how you see your self. Don’t live your life for someone else or through someone else, live your life for you! Only you can determine your value and only you can give someone else the power to rob you of your self esteem. You are in control how you let others treat you.
Have you ever really thought about why people really get married….and some times at such an early age? We marry to grow up and to get away from our parents, most of us don’t even know who we are at this point in time but we think that this is the right thing to do when this really couldn’t be further from the truth. The truth is that sometimes we marry for all the wrong reasons, and we usually marry the wrong person. We think that when we get married that our lives are going to change so much, and for the better. We are so excited that we are going to start a new live and be all grown up but then things begin to change. All of a sudden things aren’t fun anymore and the person we married and thought we loved suddenly starts to change. If you were unhappy at home then you more than likely will be unhappy with your marriage. You have to be happy with you before you can be happy in a relationship.
Your marriage can only be as happy and emotionally healthy and content as you are. Many of us settle for less than the love we deserve because we lack the self love we are desperately hoping to find in a relationship. A relationship can not fill the void if you are lacking a healthy self esteem. You may end up loosing yourself instead of finding yourself if you are looking for the other persons feelings and value of you to determine who you are.
If you begin to find the relationship lonely and unfulfilling you may begin to believe that it is a reflection of you and that you must have done something wrong, that there is something lacking in you. You have to be true to yourself and be courageous and turn away from using your relationship as a reflector of your worth, sometimes there are just bad relationships and that’s not your fault.
You are an intelligent, compassionate, warm, strong, generous, powerful, beautiful person and if you don’t see this then you have been looking for your worth in all the wrong faces…..Take a look in the mirror….there you will find your self worth!
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
www.becomelovable.com
WoW! It’s hard to believe it’s July already, where did the year go? I guess you could think about that two different ways, 1) the year is half over or 2) the second half of the year is just beginning. I believe the second one is more exciting, there is still time to accomplish so many things before the year ends. Let’s make Independence Day a day of celebration of your life, not just the country.Let’s mark this day as the beginning of the rest of your life! Make it something spectacular! Be positive that the rest of the year is going to be everything you could ever dream that it could be. You have all the time there is so make the most of it.Why should we wait till the 4th of July to celebrate? We should celebrate our lives everyday. You have to make it a choice and a priority to make the most out of your life. If you wait until the right time or the perfect moment then you could miss out on so much, don’t let life pass you by.Take care of “YOU” mentally and physically, work on yourself from the inside out. You need to get in touch with who you are, know what your heart’s desire is and then take the necessary steps to attain it. You may find this hard to believe but there are so many people out there that have no idea where they are going, what they want, how they are going to get there and many don’t believe they deserve any of it.That is sad but true but Self Esteem issues are a growing problem. We need to learn how to overcome low self esteem and start building a higher sense of self, learn to love who we are and just become the best you that you can be.So what does Independence mean to you? Are you living a life worth celebrating? If not, WHY? You are Awesome and worth more than you could ever imagine, you are unique and worthy to be loved and celebrated. Take a little time each day to celebrate “you”; do something that makes you feel good about who you are even if it’s just taking the time to read a chapter in a book or go for a walk, whatever it is that you want to do that makes you happy….just do it!There is no better time than today to start becoming lovable to yourself because that’s where you have to start; with loving yourself, then everything else will just seem to fall into place. You are the most important person in the world so take care of you first. Become the best you can be.I think you should take the time to read “7Power Words to Live BY” written by Leticia Vandramini, this book will help you to understand the power you have within you to make yourself happier and more confident.
You may also want to read “How to Build Your Self-Esteem in Just One Weekend” for more understanding about self -esteem issues.
Come on and join me in the celebration of life, I guarantee you that it will be worth it!
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
Have you ever stopped to think about how your self esteem affects other areas of your well-being? If you are suffering from low self esteem chances are you are also suffering in other areas of your life such as your health, both mental and physical, it can affect your emotional wellness, your relationships and so much more.
It really is amazing all the un-truth’s we tell ourselves to make us feel better, but you know it’s not so much making us feel better as it is making us feel unaccountable for the things that are making us feel inadequate, un-loved, rejected, or for when things don’t go our way etc….
It is much easier to have a pity party than to accept responsibility for ourselves and our happiness. We use all these misbeliefs or un-truths as excuses as to why our lives aren’t what we think they should be.
Low self-esteem is a big contributor to the misbeliefs and un-truths we learn to acquire. Most of what happens in your life happened because of the way you think. We need to get rid of all the negative thoughts and influences around us and re-train our minds with the truth. If you think about it there are negative things everywhere you look, the news is the worst. Why would you want to watch the news right before you go to bed and have all those negative thoughts and images running through your mind all night? It’s no wonder some of us are so messed up. We are conditioned to be this way.
Have you ever heard anyone say something like “I can’t win for loosing”? or “If something bad was going to happen it would happen to me” “nobody loves me” . It’s like they have given up control of their life or have given someone else control over it. Sometimes it makes us feel a little better to think that it’s not “our fault” so the blame is not ours.
It’s easy to give control to others, that way you don’t have to take responsibility for what is happening in your life, it’s an easy out. You need to take back control of your life and you can start by telling yourself the truth and omitting the negative thoughts and actions from your life. You need to regain your self respect and work on building a higher self-esteem. You are a valued human being worthy of God’s love, and if you are good enough for God to love then you are worthy of self love and the love of others. Just remember that you may not be loved by everyone and that’s ok, you will live, it’s not that bad, just tell yourself “It’s alright if everybody doesn’t like me!”
I am going to leave you with a few truths to empower your and that will help you on your journey to becoming lovable.
- It’s not necessary to be liked by everyone
- I do not have to earn anyone’s approval or acceptance
- My needs and wants are as important as anyone else’s
- I am a child of God and he loves me and has accepted me for who I am.
- Not being approved of or accepted is not terrible
- Rejection is not terrible just unpleasant
- It is a misbelief that I must please others and be approved by them
- Other people do not decide my value
- I am lovable
You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
Life without love is useless. Love empowers you to be all that you can be. Relationships are what life is all about and if you want to find love, you’ve got to give love. We live in a society where deep relationships are hard to establish and where impersonal contacts are more common. Low self-esteem has a lot to do with us not letting love into our lives, we feel vulnerable and fear getting our hearts broken. True fulfillment and happiness come from giving of ourselves and knowing who we are and what we want. The greater challenge is to then let the ones we love know who we are but you can only be loved to the extent to which you allow your real self to be known. You need to stop letting fear rule your life and be willing to take a chance.There are two types of people in this world and they are Givers and Takers. I’m sure that you would agree that you would rather have givers in your life than takers right? Givers give their love to us freely; they give their time; they give us encouragement and support. Are you that kind of person in your relationships? If that is the kind of person you want to have a relationship with, then you must become that person. The statement “like attracts like” is so very true. Try looking at everyone you meet as a mirror, do you like what you see? Do you want to be like that person? You have the power to be what you want to be, no one has the right to make you anything different, you are in control of you.Communication and understanding are very important elements in a relationship. You need to be committed to genuinely understand yourself and others, if not it will all mean nothing.There is no such thing as love on demand. Love is a daily, mutual exchange of values that you must continually work at. You can’t expect things to just stay the same, they are constantly changing and you need to communicate to keep things fresh and new. Don’t expect people to read your mind because they can’t, they don’t always know what you need or want, learn to share, communicate and understand each other. Love is one of the 7 Power Words in Letty Vendramini’s book “7 Power Words to Live By for a Meaningful and Happy Life”. Life was meant to be lived to the fullest but some of us just don’t know how and need a little help. The 7 Power words will help you to begin your journey to personal success, wealth, health, fulfillment, joy, happiness and love. Let’s take this to the next level ! You are Awesome!Live. Laugh. Love,Kathy
Let’s take a little “Day Break” Sometimes I think we tend to take life to seriously. Life was intended to be a joy. Remember back when we were kids…the only thing we had to worry about was what we were going to play and who was going to play with us. What happened to those times? It’s a shame that when we grow up we stop playing.
Life is too short to be so serious all the time, if you want to be truly happy you have to take some time out of your day to do something you consider “fun” and it doesn’t matter what that is….it can be anything or even nothing if that’s what you want to do. You just need to take a break from all the “adult” stuff and become a kid (even if in your mind) for just a few minuets. Forget about the bills for a moment, forget about the laundry, it will all still be there when you get back from your little day break….go have a little fun.
Self nurturing is a very important part of keeping your self-esteem intact. You need to take care of you mentally and physically and treat yourself as a worthwhile lovable person because that’s what you are. I know it’s hard to feel worthwhile and lovable when people around you make you feel just the opposite and I know it is so easy to let the things they say and do and the way they treat you influence the way you feel about yourself. We were taught as children to listen to those in authority such as parents, teachers, other adults and sometimes those people were less than supportive and encouraging leaving you to feel less than lovable. I think once we begin to feel worthless we have a tendency to listen to more and more people not just authority figures and we let them dictate our worth.
That is what needs to be stopped. You deserve to feel loved and sometimes you just have to tell the people around you that you are a worthwhile person and that you deserve to be loved. Let them know how you feel about the way they treat you. Don’t be afraid to tell them and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Getting help from others is a very important step and sometimes one of the most difficult to help you improve your self-esteem. Ask your friends and family for their support, don’t be afraid to ask for a hug.
Don’t be afraid of change. I heard a quote the other day and it is so true…”If nothing ever changed….there wouldn’t be any butterflies” Sometimes change is a good thing, just look at the butterfly, they go from a worm, wrap themselves up in a cocoon and eventually emerge a beautiful butterfly. The problem we run into sometimes is we build that cocoon and we don’t give ourselves the chance to turn into that beautiful butterfly.
Come out of your cocoon and become lovable and be everything that God created you to be. God loves you and he wants you to be happy, God created you for greatness in his image. Remember God doesn’t create junk…You are Awesome!
If you are ready to Become Loveable and build a higher self-esteem you need to check out “How to Build Higher Self-Esteem in Just One Weekend“ this e-book is filled with information and exercises to help you with your self-esteem issues or to help you help someone else over come their problem.
We are all unique in our own way and different things work for different people so don’t be discouraged….You will get it! You are Awesome! You are Beautiful and deserve to be Loved!!!
Till we meet again….You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
P.S. you might also want to check out “7 Power Words to Live By“ a very uplifting and powerful read
I recently attended a high school graduation and it was amazing to see all of those young people making that huge leap from childhood to adulthood in just a matter of a few moments. First of all I would like to say Congratulations to all of you who succeeded in getting their diploma, you are awesome!
That is such an accomplishment and should make you feel very proud. I know for some it was easier than others but you all made it and now it’s time to make some huge life altering decisions. Those decisions will depend greatly on how mature and confident each newly acclaimed adult is. Every one of those graduates are unique and each will be making different decisions about what they are going to do with the rest of their lives.
It’s ok for all of us to have different goals and dreams, that’s what sets us apart and makes us unique and special, life would be pretty boring if we all went after the same things don’t you think? I’m sure many of those graduates will be attending college in the fall and some will just get jobs and others will still have no clue what they want to do with their life and this will greatly depend on how they were raised and if they have a healthy self esteem.
Those that are confident and have a higher self esteem will be the ones that know how to set and achieve goals and will have a good sense of direction as to how their life will turn out while those with lower self esteem may have no idea as to what they want out of life and where the next few years will take them. I think a lot of this depends on how each child grew up, whether they had a loving, nurturing supportive family or whether they were neglected, possibly abused living in a dysfunctional family. We don’t get to chose our parents but sometimes I think there should be some sort of manual given to parents at the birth of their child teaching them how to love and raise a child to be everything they were created to be, we were all created for greatness.
We all need to realize that we are unique and lovable, parents as well as children. I know sometimes we all need a little reassuring and sometimes a little help. I am here for you if there is anyway I can help, I want you to feel empowered and lovable, for your self esteem to soar and take you to where ever it is you want to go. I want you to realize how awesome you truly are. You have the right to be happy and become whatever it is you want to be. Your life is yours and you are in control, make the best of it.
I would like to suggest a few tools that might be helpful to you on your journey to greatness….If you are suffering from poor self esteem “How to Build Your Self Esteem in Just one Weekend” is full of useful information that can help you fast. If you are striving to be happy you might want to read “7 Power words to Live By” it is very uplifting and will make you happier just reading it. I want you to be happy and feel lovable because you deserve it! You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
Boy sometimes it just feels like there are just not enough hours in the day to get everything you need to get done…DONE! Have you ever felt like that? It’s very frustrating to say the least. I’ve discovered that all you can do when you are feeling pressured and out of time is to just take things one step at a time and make the most of every moment you have. Everything will work out and you will live to see another day. A deadline is usually set to give you a guideline but I guarantee you that if you don’t meet that deadline, it will not be the end of the world. Lets face it, sometimes things just get in the way and sometimes they are important things that can never be made up if you were to miss them, things such as your granddaughters dance recital, taking your granddaughter to the hospital when she is sick and only getting an hours sleep then having to go to work. That’s just the way my week has gone and I am feeling a little exhausted and even tonight I have things that I needed to get done and I am here babysitting again and the little one is really very fussy making things a little unpleasant but you gotta love them.You need to spend time with your children or grandchildren and give them all the love you possibly can and make sure they know how valuable and lovable they are so they can grow up happy adults without self esteem issues. Don’t just tell them how special and lovable they are SHOW them, speaking of which I need to cut this short, my granddaughters and I are getting ready to watch Alvin and the Chipmunks JLearn to become lovable and teach your children to be lovable and then they will be well on their way to living a happy fulfilled life. Love them and let them know how special and unique they really are and to never lose site of that.If you had a less than perfect childhood and are feeling less than lovable and unhappy you should read “The 7 Power Words to Live By” for a meaningful and happy life. The more you learn the more empowered you will be. Learn to live the life you have always dreamed of, take a chance and love!Well I hate to cut this short but Trinity and the Chipmunks are waiting.Love You! You are Awesome!
Live, Laugh, Love,
Kathy
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To be Happy is a Choice! And yes we all have that choice. Some of us just let others influence our lives to the point that we don’t know who we really are anymore and we are no longer who we started out to be. We get so lost sometimes just trying to live our lives to please others, seeking their approval, making sure their needs are met, trying to make them happy, that in the process we forget who we really are, what we want and what makes us happy. We seem to find it easier to let someone else do our thinking for us, maybe because we have someone to blame when things don’t go the way we think they should. In the words of Socrates “To find yourself, think for yourself” become all that you were meant to be. If you let someone else do Your thinking for you then you can only become what they think you should be. Take responsibility for who you are, be strong and don’t give up, you have your whole life to get it right, one day at a time but the key is that You have to Start. One expression I have heard quite often is “You don’t have to get it right, you just have to get it going” There will never be a better time to get it going than today, for tomorrow may never come. Be happy with You and become lovable from the inside out. You are only cheating yourself if you don’t. Be yourself, love who you are because if you don’t love yourself then you may never know what it truly feels like to be loved. If you really want to be loved then you first must be lovable, are you lovable??? Do you value who you are? That is the first step to loving yourself by placing value on who you are. When you value (love) who you are then others will be able to see that and value you all the more. Your self esteem plays a big role in how you value yourself. We were all born with a healthy self esteem but sometimes in the process of growing up we come in contact with other people that have low self esteem and the relationships we have with those people can sometimes rob you of your own self esteem. People that aren’t happy don’t want you to be happy either. They will do everything they can to try and keep you on their level. You have to realize that you are better than that and don’t let anyone belittle or degrade you. You have to develop a new self image, be more positive about yourself, recognize what you can and can not change about yourself and change the things you can. Try not to be perfect because no one is. Your imperfections make you unique and special. Don’t be afraid to be different and voice your opinions and ideas and take pride in doing so. Relax and enjoy who you are and have fun, don’t put your life on hold until everything is perfect because it may never be. Always move forward toward your goals and ideals and never give up on them or you! It’s never too late to develop a healthy self esteem and become lovable but it may take a little time and work so be patient, don’t get discouraged. You may need the help of a professional but if you want to try it on your own first I would like to suggest that you read “How to Build Your Self Esteem In Just One Weekend” and you also might like “7 Power Words To Live By For a Meaningful and Happy Life” both Books will guide you to learning more about You and how to Become Lovable! Remember You are Awesome! And also remember; I have been where you are and I want you to know that I am here to help you and guide you in any way I can, you can over come low self esteem!
Live, Laugh, Love,Kathy